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"Be curious, not judgmental." - Ted Lasso
I heard this quote on Ted Lasso. As we have all experienced, we feel so much freedom and comfort when people are curious about us rather than judgmental. Because when we are looking for reasons to love & accept each other, we find them.
& when someone sees us as lovable, it goes a long way in helping us believe that maybe we are. So, it makes a heck of a lot of sense that being curious towards others makes our lives and the lives of those around us so much better. It’s life-altering advice for our relationships with our lovers, our haters, and everything in between.
Today, I realized that “be curious, not judgmental” isn’t just life-altering advice for how we view others. It’s even more life-altering when we apply it to ourselves — our bodies, our actions, & our feelings. I get caught in the frustration of not living up to my own expectations in my actions, achievements, & appearance sometimes.
But beating myself up has never once helped me achieve more. It just stops me right where I am, too busy glaring at myself to move forward. Which makes it impossible to connect with anyone else. Sometimes, I get so busy looking for what is ugly about myself, what others must hate about me when they see it, that I can’t see anyone or anything else. And I don’t think I’m the only one.
The comfort and freedom that comes with being curious about myself instead of judgmental is the fiercest fuel on the fire of growth I’ve found yet.
Like Mr. Rogers said, “When we love a person, we accept him or her exactly as is: the lovely with the unlovely, the strong with the fearful, the true mixed in with the façade, and of course, the only way we can do it is by accepting ourselves that way.”
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