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building a happy queer marriage (with Megan Elliott-Hewson)
In this episode, we sit down with queer writer, artist, and pottery studio owner Megan Elliott-Hewson to dive into the beauty and complexity of queer marriage, building a life in creative partnership, and the unfiltered truth about writing queer fiction.
š We talk:
š The honest reality of queer marriage
šļø Writing queer novels in a straight-centered industry
š« Creating safe, soft spaces through queer pottery classes
š¬ Finding love, art, and community as a queer woman
Find Megan Elliott-Hewson on:Ā
- Instagram: @meganelliotthewson
- Clay wild studio Instagram: @claywildstudio
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58:30||Ep. 52As 2025 comes to a close, weāre unwrapping our sapphic dating lives. Think of it as the ultimate end-of-year recap, but messier. In this episode, we dive into our personal āDating Unwrappedā stats: the unforgettable highs, the total disasters, awkward first dates, unexpected sparks, and everything in between. From ghosting fails to swoon-worthy moments, weāre sharing what this year really taught us about love, lust, and all the chaos that comes with modern queer dating.And because we canāt resist a little magic, weāre also getting a soulmate reading from an Etsy witch: will it predict our future loves? Or just give us a good laugh? Either way, buckle up for stories, laughs, cringe-worthy confessions, and maybe a sprinkle of hope for 2026.Find us on:- Instagram- Tiktok- Youtube
51. the L word debrief : loving Bette Porter is a red flag
42:44||Ep. 51This week on giving (un)bothered, weāre deep-diving into The L Word ā the iconic, chaotic, ahead-of-its-time series that transformed queer TV history and paved the way for modern LGBTQ+ representation in media. If youāve ever searched for The L Word analysis, character breakdowns, or why this show still has such a cultural grip, this episode is for you.We get into everything:⨠The L Word characters we relate to most: the personalities and storylines that still hit todayš„ The L Word characters we dislike: the ones who continue to divide fansš The best L Word couples and the love stories that live rent-free in our minds𤨠The weirdest dynamics and plotlines, because no show is messier in the best way.š Why the show was so ahead of its time and its lasting influence on queer storytelling.We also touch on the hype around Wicked Part 2, sharing our thoughts and reactions after watching the movie! Find us on:- Instagram- Tiktok- Youtube
50. surviving long distance relationships : facetime dates, communication & staying independent
37:37||Ep. 50Long-distance relationships are NOT for the weak and on todayās episode, weāre unpacking everything that keeps a long distance relationship alive⦠and everything that can ruin it.From FaceTime dates, to over-communicating vs. under-communicating, to figuring out how to stay independent while still being obsessed with your partner. Weāre breaking down the real, unfiltered LDR experience.If you're navigating a queer long-distance relationship, thinking about starting one, or deep into those āI miss youā spirals⦠this episode is your comfort listen. šš±āļøfind us on: - Instagram- Tiktok- Youtube
49. lesbian s*x for dummies: labels in the bedroom (with Katie from Labeless)
01:01:52||Ep. 49We sit down with Katie, founder of queer-owned s*x toy company Labeless, to unpack labels in the bedroom: top, bottom, pillow princess, and everything in between. Plus, our first experiences with women and the awkward truth about visiting a s*x shop for the first time. Find us on: Instagram: @giving.unbotheredTiktok: @giving.unbotheredYoutube: @givingunbothered Find Labeless on: Instagram: @labelessukTiktok: @labelessuk queer podcast, lgbtq podcast, lesbian stories, queer intimacy, queer dating
48. truth or drink: sapphic age gaps & getting caught having s*x
36:40||Ep. 48Weāre back with another Truth or Drink, and things got way too real. From sapphic fantasies to virginity stories we probably shouldnāt have shared, this oneās pure chaos in the best way. Grab a drink and dive into the mess of queer dating, lesbian love, and our very own red flag behaviour š¶ļøFind us on:Ā Instagram: ā @giving.unbotheredā Tiktok: ā @giving.unbotheredā Youtube: ā @givingunbotheredā #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationships #wlw #lesbianpodcast #sapphic LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, queer dating mistakes, WLW relationship advice, I kissed a girl, IKAG, jojo siwa, gillian anderson, scream, dating red flags, intimacy, age gap relationshipsĀ
47. gold star lesbians, baby gays & heartbreak advice
42:22||Ep. 47Weāre answering your questions about gold star lesbians, baby gays, and queer heartbreak. Real listener confessions, breakup advice, and chaotic first-date stories: unfiltered and very gay. ššFind us on:Ā Instagram: ā @giving.unbotheredā Tiktok: ā @giving.unbotheredā Youtube: ā @givingunbotheredā
46. lesbian hot takes : why do lesbians sleep with their friends?
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45. sapphic red flags : how to get over your first crush
44:34||Ep. 45Your first lesbian crush? Been there. Obsessed? Absolutely. Over it? ā¦Eventually. In this episode, we dive deep into the sapphic red flags you should run from (š), the ones we controversially find kinda hot (donāt judge us), and the emotional chaos of getting over your first lesbian crush.Ā From the seductive mystery of a girl who lovebombs just enough to keep you hooked, to the heartbreak of someone who wants girlfriend treatment but wonāt commit ā weāve seen it all. Weāre unpacking the most common red flags in queer dating, like hot-and-cold texting, exes who never fully exit the chat, and intense jealousy disguised as passion. And yes, we also admit the red flags that, controversially, we still find kind of hot (hello, āhealthyā possessiveness š).Whether youāre spiraling over a situationship, confused by your crushās mixed signals, or trying to heal after your first real queer heartbreak, this episode is your survival guide to lesbian relationships, emotional growth, and choosing peace over chaos (eventually).Find us on:Ā Instagram: ā @giving.unbotheredā Tiktok: ā @giving.unbotheredā Youtube: ā @givingunbotheredā #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #podcasts #relationships #intimacy #datingpodcast #dating #datingandrelationshipsLGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, dating podcast, lesbian podcast, WLW podcast, queer dating advice, WLW relationship advice, signs a woman is interested in you romantically, why do i keep questioning my sexuality, WLW relationships, queer dating, sapphic relationships, sapphic intimacy, WLW dating advice, sapphic stories, dating stories, how to get over your crush
44. letās get naked: sexting, strapping & bedroom icks
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