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Are We Physically Okay? (Asking for All Bisexuals)
In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, Chad and Steve tackle the intersections of bisexuality and physical health, unpacking the unique disparities Bi+ folks face in health systems, studies, and lived experience. From breaking down minority stress and the AIB (Attraction, Identity, Behaviour) model to candid chats about disability, health journeys, and everything in betweenâthis episode is a blend of research-backed insight and heartfelt personal stories. PLUS, a major announcement: the very first Give It To Me Bi Live Show is happening this June for Pride Month at Qtopia Sydneyâand you're invited.
đ Key Points / Highlights
- Bisexuals & Health Gaps: Why bisexual individuals face unique physical health risksâincluding earlier onset disability and chronic illness.
- The AIB Model: Breaking down why attraction, identity, and behaviour all matterâand how research often fails us.
- Internalised Ableism & Productivity Guilt: Chad and Steve get real about disability, chronic illness, and the societal shame around âdoing less.â
- What Actually Helps: From electrolyte trauma to walking with purposeârealistic, body-positive tips for health without shame.
- Live Show Reveal! Weâre kicking off Pride Month at Qtopia Sydney with our first-ever live podcast taping AND a bonus community panel night.
đïž Big Bi Night â Live at Qtopia Sydney
đïž Mon 2 June 2025 | Get Tickets
Join us for Give It To Me Bi: LIVE!, our first-ever live show and a powerful all-star Bi+ panel.
đ Resources & Links
đ How to Support Someone Who Has Recently Come Out as Bisexual
Studies:
- Dyar et al. (2019). Physical Health Disparities Across Dimensions of Sexual Orientation, Race/Ethnicity, and Sex: Evidence for Increased Risk Among Bisexual Adults. Archives of sexual behavior, 48(1), 225â242. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-018-1169-8
- Fredriksen-Goldsen et al. (2012). Disability among lesbian, gay, and bisexual adults: disparities in prevalence and risk. American journal of public health, 102(1), e16âe21. https://doi.org/10.2105/AJPH.2011.300379
- Taylor et al. (2019). Bisexual mental health: Findings from the 'Who I Am' study. Australian journal of general practice, 48(3), 138â144. https://doi.org/10.31128/AJGP-06-18-4615
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