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Zachary Zane (Boyslut) on Sex, Sexuality, and Sexual Expression, among other things

Season 1, Ep. 27

Jason and Brett talk to sexpert Zachary Zane (Boyslut) about bisexuality, kinks, overcoming  shame, and the importance of talking openly and honestly about sexual expression in its many forms. In case the title of the episode doesn't make it clear: sex comes up a lot in this episode.

Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ+ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. He’s also the coauthor of Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever.
 
He has two columns: “Sexplain It” the sex and relationship advice column at Men’s Health and “Navigating Non-Monogamy” at Cosmo, where he shares all the mistakes he’s made in his polyamory journey, so you don’t have to.
 
He is also the founder and editor in chief of Boyslut zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. His work on sexuality and relationships has been published in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, the Washington Post, GQ, OUT, and many others.

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