FWD JOY by Chrissy Rutherford

This week, Chrissy sits down with therapist, relationship expert, and returning guest Vienna Pharaon Pharaon for an honest conversation about modern dating, anxious attachment, limerence, nervous system regulation, and what it actually means to keep your heart open in a dating landscape that can feel increasingly bleak.Together, they unpack the emotional patterns that keep us stuck, why awareness alone isn’t enough to change behavior, and the difference between someone who won’t show up for you versus someone who genuinely can’t. They also explore the internet’s favorite dating phrases like “if he wanted to, he would,” detachment culture, and why so many people are struggling to balance hope with self-protection.From fantasy spirals and situationships to flirting in Milan and learning how to self-regulate through heartbreak, this episode is a compassionate deep dive into love, capacity, healing, and the courage it takes to stay openhearted anyway.

On this episode of FWD JOY, Chrissy sits down with astrocartography expert Helena Woods for a conversation about place, identity, and how where you are can shape who you become.Helena shares her journey into astrology, from early curiosity to building a business around mapping people’s lives through location. They get into the fundamentals of astrocartography, what it means to have planetary lines across the world, and how different places can activate different parts of your chart.Together, they explore how to think about travel with intention, the difference between Venus, Mars, and Saturn lines, and why finding love or success in a new city isn’t always as simple as booking a flight. Helena also breaks down the role of timing, relocation charts, and why some places feel instantly familiar while others push you to grow.Plus, Chrissy reflects on her own experiences living between New York and London, unexpected connections to Sweden, and what it really means to find a place that feels like home.

On this episode of FWD JOY, Chrissy sits down with CNN anchor and senior political correspondent Abby Phillip for a conversation about ambition, anxiety, identity, and what it really takes to stay grounded in an overwhelming world.Abby opens up about growing up as the child of Trinidadian immigrants, why she didn’t always have a clear vision for her future, and how she found her way from pre-med at Harvard to one of the most visible roles in journalism. They talk about career pivots, risk-taking, and why building skills matters more than clinging to a rigid five-year plan.Plus, Abby shares her honest thoughts on self-care, meditation, acupuncture, motherhood, and the everyday practices that help her release stress and protect her peace.

Venus just moved into Pisces, and the timing feels intentional. In this solo episode, Chrissy shares her personal dating philosophy through the lens of her 12th house Pisces Venus, exploring karmic relationships, fate, boundaries, sex, and the difference between chemistry and nervous system safety.This is not a how-to guide. It is a reflection on navigating dating without a handbook. Through therapy, astrology, lived experience, and years of self inquiry, she has built a framework that feels aligned with who she actually is.In this episode, she covers:Her dating app strategy to avoid burnoutWhy she doesn’t believe in constant texting in the early stagesHer low-stakes move for meeting someone in real lifeThe 12 Date RuleHow she thinks about sex and emotional attachmentLuck versus alignmentWhy the spark is not the goalFor anyone dating, healing, questioning old patterns, or trying to build something that feels safe and expansive at the same time, this conversation offers an honest, grounded perspective.Take what resonates. Leave the rest.Stories referenced in this episode:Losing My Virginity Taught Me to Trust The Timing of My LifeThe Summer I Slept with My ExMy Boyfriend and I Had A Closing Ceremnoy for Our RelationshipWhat Keeps A Situationship From Turning into A Relationship

In this episode, Chrissy sits down with astrologer Colin Bedell for a wide-ranging conversation on astrology, uncertainty, power, and what it really means to stay engaged in hard times.They explore how astrology has shifted in the age of social media, the dangers of fear-mongering and prediction culture, and why astrology is meant to contextualize uncertainty rather than control it. Together, they unpack the major astrological themes shaping 2026, including the Saturn Neptune conjunction, the North Node entering Aquarius, eclipses in Virgo and Pisces, Jupiter’s move into Leo, and what all of it asks of us on a personal and collective level.This conversation moves through cycles, courage, community, relational intelligence, and the responsibility of showing up, even when things feel overwhelming. At its core, it’s about learning how to tolerate uncertainty, tell better stories about ourselves, and take small, meaningful action in our own lives.A grounding, expansive episode for anyone seeking clarity without shortcuts and hope without bypassing reality.

Is it just me, or did this year feel really hard?In this episode, Chrissy reflects on what she’s lovingly referred to as the flop that was 2025. A year with no neat buzzword, no clean arc, and a whole lot of reckoning. Between moving through a collective nine years and her own personal nine years, this was a season of endings, pauses, quiet realizations, and being forced to sit with what is actually aligned instead of what just looks good on paper.Chrissy talks about launching FWD JOY as a podcast, learning the hard way that she cannot do everything herself, reconnecting with an ex for karmic reasons she’s still unpacking, discovering brainspotting and somatic therapy, and navigating a deep wave of self-doubt during Saturn in Pisces. She gets into friendship shifts, community dissolutions, meet cutes that didn’t go anywhere but still counted, books that genuinely changed how she sees herself, travel as both freedom and paralysis, and the strange limbo of feeling like the next phase of life is right there but not quite unlocked yet.This episode is less about having answers and more about honoring reflection as a spiritual practice. It’s about trusting that even the quiet, confusing years are doing something important behind the scenes. If you’re feeling tender, stuck, reflective, or like you’re waiting for your life to begin again, this one’s for you. Consider this a closing chapter. Or at least a very honest footnote before 2026.