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Frolo: The Single Parent Podcast

Single parenting as a widow with Karen Sutton

Season 2, Ep. 6

“Telling your sweet, innocent children their Dad is dead are not words that comfortably come out of your mouth.”


On September 11th 2016 Karen’s husband Simon went out for a Sunday morning bike ride with a friend and never came home. Simon suffered a cardiac arrest and his death completely shattered Karen. Suddenly she found herself a single parent to her two children, then aged nine and five, grieving not just the loss of her husband, but of a life and a future that had both been completely turned on their heads.

In this episode of the Frolo podcast, Karen talks to Zoë about:

 

●      How her life changed forever on that one day in 2016 and how she initially dealt with the shock.

●      The importance of being completely honest with children following a bereavement, even when the words sound harsh.

●      How her friends, family and wider community rallied to carry Karen and her children through the first few months of grief.

●      Working with a life coach, two and a half years after Simon’s death, and how that transformed her mindset, leaving her now in a place where she’s genuinely happy again.

●      Wanting to share her learning with others and the process of retraining and becoming a grief coach.

 

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Find Karen:

One her website: https://www.karensutton.co.uk/

On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karensuttonwidowcoach

 

 This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative @decibelle_creative

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