Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

I thought anonymity was about avoiding the stigma of being in 12 step recovery. It's really about humility, which is what allows us to be teachable. When we are humble, we understand we're no better and no worse than anyone else. It's also about ensuring that each one of us has only one voice, and no one speaks for any particular fellowship (whether inside the rooms of recovery or publicly).Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!).

We can have all the expectations of the world that we want, but we'll likely be pissed off a lot if we do! This episode specifically addresses the issue of fairness, but the same principle could apply to any value you hold dearly. The idea is that, instead of getting pissed off that things are not the way you think they should be, work toward creating those conditions. One of the quotes mentioned in the podcast makes more sense when you see it as opposed to hearing it. This is it:           BElieve         THEre is         GOODPlease follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!).

If you've been hiding behind various facades or masks and acting as if you like things you don't, or that you're comfortable with things you're not - that's not integrity. Being emotionally available requires vulnerability, which is not possible if you don't have integrity (i.e., if your foundation is cracked). Emotionally available people are attracted by other emotionally available people. So if you're continually attracting emotionally UNavailable people, the problem might be that you have a "cracked foundation" and aren't living in your integrity. Listen in for how to strengthen your integrity which will allow you to become vulnerable and therefore attract emotionally available people.For info on my group coaching pilot "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" mentioned in this episode, go to https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundariesPlease follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!). key words: integrity, emotional availability, emotionally available, emotionally unavailable, boundary, boundaries, vulnerable, vulnerability .

The Serenity Prayer is one of the most popular prayers in the world, but I think the opening is backwards. I learned acceptance and THEN got serenity. I give an example of what I mean by that using traffic. I also talk about how the Serenity Prayer is essentially about learning where our boundaries should be.Pilot group coaching program, "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" info and registration is linked here: https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundariesFree webinar on Mon 12/14 at 7 pm EST "Myths and Misconceptions about Boudnaries" info and registration is linked here:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/myths-and-misconceptions-about-boundaries-webinar-tickets-130356213945 Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!)

"It's easier to put slippers on your feet than to carpet the world" is a Chinese proverb. The carpet metaphor is used in this episode to illustrate the issue of control. I talk about how we can learn to stop trying to control others (carpet the world) and work on controlling ourselves (put slippers on our feet). This an example of what the Serenity Prayer refers to as "the wisdom to know the difference." The link to the group coaching pilot on boundaries is https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/ Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!).

In this episode I talk about moving away from the black-and-white thinking that if we're flawed, that means we're not awesome. It's perfectly normal to be flawed, and it's ok to let others see your flaws. When you accept your own flaws, you'll become more accepting of other people's flaws too!If you want monthly inspiration in your inbox, sign up for my newsletter "Happy, Joyous and Free" at HigherPowerCC.com.Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!).

You don't have to believe the thoughts running through your head! This pertains to thoughts about yourself (like "I'm not enough") as well as  thoughts about others and the world. If you're not choosing your thoughts *on purpose,* especially if they're negative - think again! You don't have to believe a thought just because it's in your head (even though it sounds like your voice!).Here are the links mentioned in the podcast:* FREE boundaries webinar, "How to Be Grateful on Thanksgiving by Setting Healthy Boundaries" https://www.eventbrite.com/e/how-to-be-grateful-on-thanksgiving-by-setting-healthy-boundaries-tickets-127263692129 * Pilot group coaching program starting in January, "6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb" https://higherpowercc.com/betterboundaries/ * Medium article, "How to Upgrade Your Life by Improving Your Thought Life" https://barb-nangle.medium.com/how-to-upgrade-your-life-by-improving-your-thought-life-9b0872dba776?source=friends_link&sk=2d7776ac711f33b742531362267574f1 Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!).

When someone doesn't show up when expected, we might be tempted to think, "something happened!" This usually has a negative connotation, like they were in an accident. However, when we think, "something came up" it's neutral and not likely to send is into a tailspin of negativity and anxiety. You can purposely choose this "thought work" to bring you more peace and serenity. The article I mention at the end of the podcast can be found here: https://medium.com/curious/how-to-upgrade-your-life-by-improving-your-thought-life-9b0872dba776 Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure to leave a rating of my podcast on your favorite podcast app (it helps other people who need this info to find me!).