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2.12: Invitation: On Inviting People Into The Work, And Seeing Invitations As Challenge and Positive Shake-Up For Ourselves As Leaders
For episode twelve of season two, Tim and Tuesday speak directly to the invitations they are receiving in the work of getting big change done. At this particular time in the world, what new dimensions and new experiences might we say ‘yes’ to in order to stay awake, see clearly and take action?
Together, Tim Merry and Tuesday Ryan-Hart are THE OUTSIDE—systems change and equity facilitators who bring the fresh air necessary to organize movements, organizations, and collaborators forward for progress, surfacing new mindsets for greater participation and shared impact.
2.12 —— SHOW NOTES
- Tues: When we talk about invitation we tend to focus outward - how do we invite folks in; which is really important and a key part of our work, but I like this different twist you are inviting, Tim. What are the invitations we are saying yes to?
- Tim: One of the recent invitations I said yes too was Bioneers in California. It was an invitation that engaged me and my life in things I would never experience otherwise—to engage with cultures and beliefs and song and poetry and ways of thinking about the world that kind of expand me and my family’s view.
- Tues: At this moment, I am in a cycle of saying “yes” to intuition. I was invited to a three-day Collective Consciousness Retreat exploring ritual, meditation and a more structured dialogue practice to surface what was between us. It felt like one of those little side doors. Within the first 10 minutes someone in the group talked about ‘trustlessness’ - the idea that trust isn’t even the currency we should be using. It was for me as radical an idea as getting rid of capitalism. I want to be with people who are really pushing an idea.
- Tim: The idea of “side doors” significantly informs our work together. Some of those journeys are therapeutic, some are courses we do, some are events we attend, some of those journeys are conversations we have with people we are close to. These “side doors” are pushing us and expanding us.
- Tim: At Bioneers, I went to a panel discussion hosted by Jerry Tello, where he talked about his experience of working with the sacred masculine… and he finished on this line: “do your own work.” This is what you are pointing too, Tues. Trust your own intuition to take you to places that take you beyond your own comfort, that focus you into your own work, that force you to grow.
- Tues: There is an old Art of Hosting question that says, “If you were born a question, what question would it be?” My question is “How do I help these people be together better?” It goes right back to the guiding principals of The Outside. The bones of it are collective liberation.
- Tim: I would love our listeners to go to our Facebook page or Instagram and post their question there. My question would be “How do we create the conditions for people to solve their own problems?”
- Tues: Do you think this is a different time in human history for this? Is there something possible at this time?
- Tim: I think you are asking a question that someone like Gibrán Rivera or my brother, Peter Merry, who have done very specific investigation into evolutionary leadership can answer. I don’t know whether this is a unique time in the world… but what I do know is that I am alive and I want to make the best of it.
- Tues: What I want to end on is asking our listeners to get a little quiet and see what the invitations are that they are receiving now. You can also post this to our social media as well.
- Poem turned into Song: “Switch It On,” an original song by Merry And Derkee (Tim Merry & Marc Derkee), produced by Gary Blakemore.
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Duration: 41:21
Produced by: Mark Coffin @ Sound Good Studios
Theme music: Gary Blakemore
Episode cover image: source
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