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8.05: Masculinity, Meaning, and the Mess We're In

Season 8, Ep. 5
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In this episode, Tim and Tuesday dig into masculinity, leadership, and the cultural fallout of bullying and toxic masculine norms. They unpack why authoritarian leadership models are gaining traction, how fear and division shape today’s politics, and why our individual choices in community engagement matter more than ever.


The conversation moves through political discontent, the citizen–state relationship, and what people look for in leaders during times of crisis. Tim and Tuesday also examine the rise of the Manosphere, the search for purpose and belonging among young men, and how those needs can fuel harmful identities.


They close with lessons from history and the power of reconnecting with ancestral stories as a guide through modern challenges.


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