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Unlonely with Dr. Jody Carrington

How to Be More Relatable When Everyone’s on Edge - Rachel DeAlto

Season 3, Ep. 10

If you’re exhausted by the tension - at work, online, even with people you love - this episode is for you.


Dr. Jody and Rachel DeAlto talk about what’s driving the empathy dip (and the “why is everyone so mean lately?” vibe), how social media trains us out of critical thinking, and why more options in dating/work/friendship can actually make us choose worse.


This is a real-talk episode about rebuilding emotional intelligence, finding your way back to the kind of connection that actually regulates your nervous system, and learning when to dig in and do the work - versus when it’s time to go.


Links & Resources:

  • Unlonely with Dr. Jody Carrington (podcast page): https://www.drjodycarrington.com/podcast
  • Dr. Jody Carrington (official website): https://www.drjodycarrington.com/
  • Rachel DeAlto (official website): https://www.racheldealto.com/

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