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Dear Hashtag Ruthless: An Advice Bonus!
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Welcome to our first bonus advice episode of 2025!
In this episode: Can I be pansexual if I’ve only ever had one partner? Is it possible to build resilient communities and friendships that last through difficult times? How do we build the future we want to live in? And, how do I figure out my gender when my relationship to my body is already complicated for other reasons?
And in the Patreon version of the episode: How do I go about coming out and changing my pronouns for a second time? Is it possible to fix my relationship if my partner won’t take my disability needs seriously? How do I get over the grief and stigma when adjusting to using a mobility aid? What’s the best way to accommodate contradictory sensory needs? And, what tips do you have for starting T and getting top surgery?
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Intro music: Professor and the Plant by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4244-professor-and-the-plant License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
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