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10: When Your Partner Is On A Different Page (Of A Different Book In A Totally Different Shop).
So your husband's doing it all wrong? (Sorry, couldn't help it!!) Having different approaches at home can be hard. But I'm about to shift your perspective in a big way.
In this episode, I share about the challenges and frustrations of parenting with emotional intelligence when your co-parent isn't on board. Perhaps they parent differently or are actively going against your method. Who's right? How do we get them to see our way? Is that even fair?
The powerful quote I mentioned in the episode is from Dr Dona Matthews. She's a wonderful author, developmental psychologist and speaker, find her work at www.donamatthews.com
I'd love to hear your thoughts. Are you and your co-parent struggling or finding a balance? Let me know, and ask your own questions for me to answer on the podcast, just email my team!
Steph.
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Hi! I am a certified Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!
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118. 118: Triggers, Tantrums, and Techniques That Work
29:46||Season 3, Ep. 118You promise yourself you wonāt yell⦠and then suddenly, you have. Maybe your childās tantrum isnāt even that big, but something in YOU snaps.If youāve ever wondered why you react the way you do, even when you know better, this episode is for you.Today Iām not talking about how to āfixā your child, stop tantrums, or get quick compliance. Iām talking about the missing piece most parents were never taught: emotional intelligence, and how it completely changes the way you experience triggers, yelling, and discipline.I unpack why reacting is often automatic, not a failure⦠Why punishment and control donāt create calm (even when they seem to work short-term)⦠And why self-awareness, not willpower, is the skill that gives you choice in hard moments.This conversation will help you see your triggers differently, understand whatās really happening in your nervous system, and shift the focus from controlling behaviour to building connection and emotional safety.No scripts. No step-by-step formulas. Just powerful orienting principles to help you respond more intentionally, even on the haaard parenting days.If youāre tired of feeling stuck in the same cycle, and youāre ready to parent with more calm, clarity, and confidence⦠this is one you donāt want to miss. Press play and letās start changing the way you show up at home.I mentioned my book From Chaos To Connection (How parenting with emotional intelligence raises kind, confident, resilient kids) - find it on Amazon here!If you prefer to watch the video, find this episode on YouTube here.š©· Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Find my best-selling book on emotional intelligence, From Chaos To Connection on Amazon here!Ā Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.E: hello@stephaniepinto.comW: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentĀ Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 148,000+ parents in the community!š Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
117. 117: Mini Masterclass on Emotional Intelligence 2026
30:04||Season 3, Ep. 117FREE MINI EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MASTERCLASS!!Even though emotional intelligence gets talked about a lot, I think it's actually understood very little.So I decided to record a free, mini masterclass for you all and publish it on the podcast. I have stripped it back for you all and rebuilt it properly. Not as a buzzword. Not as ābeing niceā!! And definitely not as something only parents or teachers need to worry about.This is my mini masterclass on what emotional intelligence actually is, how it shapes EVERY interaction you have, and why in 2026 itās genuinely no longer optional regardless of who you are or where you live.You'll see why emotions are data (not disruptions), how your nervous system quietly decides whether you stay calm or lose it, and why so many adults are blaming themselves for reactions that are actually biological. I unpack the skill-building side of EI, the stages people move through when learning it, and the hidden reason awareness alone can feel uncomfortable before it feels empowering.And I couldn't NOT cover why ābad behaviourā is actually nervous system overload in disguise, how emotional intelligence predicts long-term success better than IQ, and why the adults around kids matter just as much as the kids themselves. Phew - a lot huh! You're going to love it.If youāve ever thought:āI know better, so why do I keep reacting like this?āāWhy does everything feel so much harder lately?āāHow do I stay regulated when the world (and kids) are not?āItās not a lecture. Itās not a checklist. Itās a reframe that changes how you see yourself, kids, and behaviour altogether.A must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone who wants to stop surviving interactions and start handling them with clarity, steadiness, and real choice.š² Prefer to watch this episode and full video on YT? Find it here!š©· Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Ā Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.E: hello@stephaniepinto.comW: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentĀ Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 148,000+ parents in the community!š Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
116. 116: How to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids in 2026 (Without Doing More)
37:45||Season 3, Ep. 116Parenting in 2026 isnāt harder because youāre doing it wrong. Trust me! Itās harder because the old tools donāt work anymore.Today it's the first episode of the year!! So Iām reintroducing the foundation of emotionally intelligent parenting and sharing why emotional intelligence is no longer optional, itās essential.So I decided to talk about what emotional intelligence actually looks like in everyday family life, why behaviour is NEVER the full story, and how raising emotionally intelligent kids doesnāt require more charts, consequences, or parenting hacks.Instead, I put together a list of 26 simple, practical ways to bring emotional intelligence into your home in 2026, WITHOUT doing more (or aiming for perfection). It sounds like a lot but I promise they are quick simple bite sized things.This episode is for parents who are tired of reacting, tired of yelling, and tired of feeling like they should know better. I have a lot of teachers and therapists who listen and love the podcast too, so anyone who lives or works with kids will enjoy this!Here's to a calmer, more connected way to raise resilient, confident kids in 2026. This episode is your starting point :)š² Prefer to watch this episode and full video on YT? Find it here!š©· Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Ā Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.E: hello@stephaniepinto.comW: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentĀ Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 148,000+ parents in the community!š Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
115. 115: The A+ Kid Who Says Heās Being Bullied⦠Then Takes It Back. Whatās Really Going On?
15:02||Season 3, Ep. 115Ever had your child tell you something worrying, only for them to suddenly deny it? Ā Or stress endlessly about tests and friendships but wonāt let you help? š„“In this special 2 year anniversary episode, Iām diving into one of the most emotionally complex listener questions Iāve received so far. A mum reached out about her sensitive, bright 8-year-old whoās struggling with intense test stress, perfectionism, big mood swings at home, and confusing stories about bullying that seem to shift.This episode is one of my deepest, most layered breakdowns yet. I unpack whatās really going on beneath these behaviours, why kids often hold it together at school but unravel at home, how perfectionism and identity can get tangled, and why shame can lead children to retract stories that were emotionally true moments earlier.Even if your situation looks nothing like this one, I promise youāll walk away with powerful insights you can apply to your own parenting. I share scripts, reframes, and emotionally intelligent strategies for supporting a dysregulated child, navigating school conversations gently and safely, and staying grounded yourself, esp when your own past experiences get triggered.Itās a heartfelt, practical, compassion-filled deep dive⦠and one Iām so excited to share with you.š² Prefer to watch this episode and full video on YT? Find it here!š©· Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Ā Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.E: hello@stephaniepinto.comW: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentĀ Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 140,000+ parents in the community!š Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
114. 114: Top 10 Lessons That Changed How I Parent (and Teach Emotional Intelligence)
24:27||Season 3, Ep. 114What if⦠the way youāve been trying to āstay calm!ā āset boundaries!ā or āteach emotional regulation!ā is actually the wrong way around?In this special 2-year anniversary episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast ā Iām sharing the 10 big lessons that completely changed the way I parent⦠and the way I think about parenting.These are the mindset-shifts that no one teaches us, but every emotionally intelligent parent needs to hear.I talk about:š©· why you canāt teach calm from chaosš©· why repair matters more than how the moment wentš©· how triggers are actually invitationsš©· and how to use emotional intelligence as strategic power in your home (not āsoft, gentle, permissivenessā as so many people confuse it for)This episode is like 2 years of parenting interviews, neuroscience research, deep real-life conversations, and lived experience ā distilled into 10 golden mindset resets you can start using today.Whether youāve been here since day one, or youāre new to this community⦠this one will stretch you, inspire you, and make you look at parenting in a totally new way.Ok letās kick off Year 3 with clarity, courage, and the confidence to raise a generation who will change the world... one emotionally intelligent conversation at a time! Woo!š² Prefer to watch this episode and full video on YT? Find it here!š©· Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Ā Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support,collaborations or speaking engagements.E: hello@stephaniepinto.comW: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentĀ Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 140,000+ parents in the community!š Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
113. 113: Repair Over Perfection: Raising Emotionally Resilient Toddlers with Devon from Transforming Toddlerhood.
27:46||Season 3, Ep. 113What if the secret to raising confident, emotionally resilient toddlers isnāt about getting itĀ rightĀ all the time ā but what we doĀ afterĀ things go wrong?In this heartwarming and honest conversation, I sit down withĀ Devon Kuntzman, founder ofĀ Transforming ToddlerhoodĀ and the original toddler parenting coach on Instagram, to talk about the power ofĀ repair over perfection.Together we explore:Why parents feel so much pressure to be perfect ā and how the brain science shows that itās theĀ repairĀ moments that truly matterHow rupture and repair wire your childās brain for resilience and emotional intelligenceThe powerful role of repair in reducing shame (for both parentsĀ andĀ kids)Real-life examples of what repair sounds like after yelling, meltdowns, or power strugglesWhy giving ourselves permission to be human is the key to raising secure, strong kidsDevon also shares insights from her brand-new book,Ā Transforming Toddlerhood, which is packed with practical tools, encouragement, and a fresh, empowering perspective for parents in the thick of toddler life.If youāve ever worried that youāre messing it up ā this episode is your reminder that every moment of repair is a chance to reconnect and grow together.Ā ORDER TRANSFORMING TODDLERHOOD NOW! https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/book/Follow Devon on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/transformingtoddlerhood/Prefer to watch instead of listen? Find this episode and the full video on YT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qoDg6uayhMY š©· Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.E: hello@stephaniepinto.comW: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentHave you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 140,000+ parents in the community! š Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
112. 112: My Post on Kids' Anger Went Viral: I'm Burning These Myths to the Ground.
23:37||Season 3, Ep. 112At the start of this year, I shared a post on Instagram about children and anger, and it went VIRAL. Hundreds of thousands of parents liked, shared, and commented, because it hit home in such a powerful way.Why? Because so many of us have been fed myths about what anger in kids means, and what weāre āsupposedā to do about it.So today I broke it all down.š What an angry child doesnāt mean (hint: think entitlement, rudeness, or needing harsher punishments).š What anger really is a signal of... from overwhelm to dysregulation to sensory overload.š How you can respond with calm, confidence, and compassion (instead of conflict).If youāve ever felt lost, frustrated, or unsure when your child lashes out, this is the episode that will shift everything. Youāll leave with a new perspective, and practical strategies to handle anger in a way that builds connection, not chaos.š©· Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.E: hello@stephaniepinto.comW: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentHave you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 140,000+ parents in the community! š Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
111. 111: How To NOT Just Survive The Kid/Teen Years.
26:59||Season 3, Ep. 111Raising kids and teens can be hard right... but you donāt have to do it alone. Self-care and prioritising our wellness is also hard... do you know why most of us actually don't do it? My guest does!Drum roll please... because today I sat down with the one and only Amy Nesbitt, host of the Whole Wellness Mamas annual summit, to talk about how to overcome the challenges of motherhood, the importance of self-care, and finding a community that truly āgets it.āWe discuss:The real struggles mums face and how to navigate them without losing yourselfPractical tips for managing stress, overwhelm, and the tricky child/teen yearsHow connection and support can make even the hardest parenting days feel lighterAmyās personal experiences as a mum and the lessons sheās learned along the wayThis conversation is full of empathy, encouragement, and actionable insights... perfect for any mum who wants to feel seen, supported, and a little less alone.Grab your FREE PASS to her summit coming up next week here (click or copy/paste): https://www.wholewellnessmamas.com/summit?sa=sa00824047863b5bb9e3305d0ce57f8fef670d1005Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.W: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentHave you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 140,000+ parents in the community! š
110. 110: Breaking the Rules: Why Neurodivergent Kids Push Back with Christina Keeble
41:26||Season 3, Ep. 110If youāve ever felt like traditional parenting advice, or even the school system, just doesnāt FIT your child, especially if theyāre neurodivergent, this episode is going to shift your perspective.Iām joined by the brilliant Christina Keebleāan AuDHD mother of two neurodivergent PDAers, and a Neurodiversity and Educational Consultant with over 23 years of experience. Christina has worked with schools, families, businesses, and government organisations to change the way we see and support neurodivergent kids.Together we dive into:⨠Why kidsā need for connection never fades (even if society acts like it should)⨠How school expectations often clash with childrenās real needs⨠Why rewards and consequences often do more harm than good⨠How neurodivergent kids challenge social hierarchiesāand why thatās actually a strengthStick around to the end, where Christina shares powerful insights for parents considering leaving the school systemāyou donāt want to miss it.This is one of those conversations that will leave you both challenged and encouraged. Youāll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to nurture trust, connection, and resilience in your kids.š CLAIM YOUR GIFT! Only for listeners, you can access my popular online course for parents of ADHD kiddos: From Blowups to Balance, instead of $97 just pay $17! Head to www.stephaniepinto.com/courses and use code ADHDPOD17Hi! Iām an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. Iām also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.W: www.stephaniepinto.comFB: fb.com/stephpintoIG @emotionally.intelligent.parentHave you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 140,000+ parents in the community! š