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Alexandra Heminsley | How to Put Yourself Back Together After a Break-Up

Ep. 194
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Trigger warning: This episode mentions sexual assault.

Alexandra Heminsley returns to the podcast to discuss her new book Some Body to Love: A Family Story which charts an extremely challenging period in her life. Sexually assaulted on a train when she was nine months pregnant after a difficult journey to conceive via IVF and then when her baby was just months old, her then-husband revealed she intended to transition.

In a short period of time she lost a sense of herself, felt dissociated from her body and the marriage and life she thought she had in front of her disappeared.

In this conversation, @hemmograms reveals:

  • How the conversation around women’s bodies has changed in the ten years since she wrote Running Like a Girl.
  • How the experiences in her own life made her reassess how she spoke about bodies.
  • Why it makes perfect sense why you have to reach breaking point.
  • The terrifying freedom of ‘it was never about me’ when her marriage ended.
  • The judgemental world of new motherhood.
  • The temptation of the toxic path of rage and anger.
  • Why it became a mission to understand and support the trans community.
  • The implications of the pink and blue world we live in.
  • Why, when you go through a traumatic experience, there’s value in ‘feeling all your feelings’.
  • Her advice for anyone who feels loss, not like themselves and who wants to get back to feeling whole again
  • And so much more...

Some Body to Love: A Family Story is available now.

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