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Dr Ramani Durvasula | How to Survive a Narcissist.
What is the impact of narcissistic abuse? And can you ever recover? Dr Ramani Durvasual is arguably the world's leading expert on narcissism and her books and YouTube channel are testament to her breadth of knowledge on the topic. However, while defining, describing and identifying narcissism has become a widespread pastime, how actually to recover from the effects of narcissistic abuse is much less talked about - until now.
Dr Ramani's latest book It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People delves into how to put yourself back together, how to be wise to and avoid gaslighting and how to navigate the world without being sucked into narcissist's gravitational pull.
On her first visit to the podcast, Dr Ramani helped me realised my role as an enabler and in this conversation we discuss how to build the emotional toolkit required to navigate a world with difficult people.
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Festive Flashback | Lorna Luxe's Feel Good Habits.
32:22|Here's some twinkly goodness in the shape of my Top 10 Feel Good Habits interviews. In this episode, Lorna Luxe.This episode was originally published in July 2021.In this episode, @lornaluxe and I discuss:• The joy of staying in bed and why the narrative of getting up early somehow equals success isn't true.• Why switching off devices, as advised by Marie Reynolds, has been a quick way to maximise sleep in the Luxe household.• The Tony Robbins technique that helps Lorna prime every day to be a good day and why it receives her glowing recommendations of 'I'll tell you what, it's belting!'• How food is something she uses to make herself feel-good after depriving herself a lot in her 20s she feels now, in her 30s, that she's found a balance.• The IGTV Callie Thorpe posted that has transformed the way she preps her food every week.• Why skincare and haircare are quick and easy ways to invest some time and care in yourself and why beauty as self-care can be a five-minute job and doesn't mean 'full-on masks, massages and all that jazz• Plus we also go off on a major hair loss tangent as we both started seeing trichologists at Philip Kingsley at about the same time in 2020 and have seen impressive results.• Plus, I also quiz her about airplane hygiene and what she does and doesn't recommend you do on planes as a former cabin crew.During this conversation, we also mentioned: the I Am Not Your Guru documentary on Netflix Dusk bed linen and Mela Silk bed linen.
Festive Flashback | Caroline Hiron's Feel Good Habits
51:37|Here's some twinkly goodness in the shape of my Top 10 Feel Good Habits interviews. First up, Caroline Hirons.This episode was originally published in March 2021. Caroline is a best-selling author, skincare expert, businesswoman and consultant who admits that while she doesn’t struggle with feeling down, she does have a series of habits that set her up for a great day. During our conversation @carolinehirons reveals: • How and why she developed a ‘let’s just get on with it, shall we?’ attitude. • Why she has surrounded herself with ‘no’ instead of ‘yes’ people. • The power of a good playlist for helping her sail through her to-do list or get a task done. • How her family ground and centre her. • Why the day doesn’t begin until her bed is made. • Her ‘wallpaper’ of SVU, Oprah and anything familiar. • Why she’s so good at multi-tasking. • Why you NEVER come for @oprah, and much more…
Has Life Made You Hard-Hearted?
27:07|If you've been with me and this podcast for a while, you'll know that a lot has happened in the nearly 10 years I've been publishing the show. Back in 2016 I was a very different version of myself; bruised from broken friendships, toxic workplaces and a type of slow erosion of myself caused by a rainbow of life's experiences. I was chatting to a friend recently during a road trip about how life can sometimes feel as though it kicks you when you're down, how the pain of broken friendships is sharp, hideous and heart-breaking and she made the comment that she didn't want these experiences of make her 'hard-hearted'. Now, while I might have had one ear on her and one ear on the sat nav, this cut me to the quick. As much as I like to think I've made huge progress and am no longer a soft-hearted, easily bruised person, I had to ask myself, 'have I become hard-hearted'? I don't want to have sharp edges and a brittle exterior but in becoming better able to deal with life, have I lost the parts of myself that made me soft, warm and able to trust and love?Please stay in touch! Email me at office@emmaguns.comFollow me on Instagram where I'm @emmagunsAnd make sure you're subscribed to my Substack where I'm @TheEmmaGuns Show
Where Am I Going Wrong?
24:35|For a little while now, I've been feeling professionally frustrated. I am, as a reminder, a journalist who has specialised in health and beauty and interviewing. However, the landscapes within which I've worked for nearly 25 years have changed so drastically that it can sometimes feel as though you're always on the back foot. In the past 12 years, I've gone from being a print journalist to embracing social media, podcasting, video and now Substack and the need to be constantly aware of what the next big thing might be means one thing can fall by the wayside - quality.Luckily, I've been struck down by a virus over the last week, which has given me the space and time to actually take a look at what I'm doing, what I think I should be doing differently, what I'm doing too much of and what I'm not doing enough of. The main takeaway though has been how constantly going back to the drawing board and trying to reinvent the wheel is draining, overwhelming and exhausting. No wonder I have professional fatigue.So, for one last time I'm going to go back to the start and figure out what I want to create but I'd love your input too. What do you miss? What don't you see enough of? What do you want more of? What mistakes am I making? (braces self)In an age where everyone is a content creator, how do you think I should stand out?Follow & Connect:Substack: https://emmaguns.substack.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmaguns/
The Two Kind of Exhaustion No One Admits To.
19:01|Let's talk about the different kinds of exhaustion, from the emotional and mental fatigue that comes from life's sudden curve balls to the physical strain that can flatten your energy reserves even when everything else feels pretty steady.For me, 2024, brought a sudden, sink or swim situation that left me emotionally depleted and mentally drained. I managed to appear, in fact I wanted to appear 'fine' to the outside world and somehow managed just that. Recently though, a short virus flipped everything on its head. My mind was clear and calm but my body was limp.In this episode, I explore:why exhaustion is more than just being 'tired'the difference between surviving something heavy and recovering from something physical. how the body and mind take turns 'carrying us' through.why different forms of tired ask for different kinds of rest.what both types of tiredness taught me about listening to myself sooner.Let's face it, we've all been there and it can be rough, but we're all human and we all have limits.If you're going through your own version of tired right now, I hope this episode helps you feel a little more understood, or at least a little less alone.Get in touch:Email: office@emmaguns.comRead my SubstackFollow me on Insta.
How I'm Approaching the Festive Season as a Former Fatty...
28:24|‘Tis the season of excess and, for many years, I would fall head-first into trays of canapés, tubs of chocolates and large bowls of steaming hot Christmas pudding and custard. It's the time of year when food is everywhere and it's as though we've been given license to loosen our belts and enjoy as much as possible. Which is fine, of course, unless you struggle with over-eating, binge-eating, weight management or just lose yourself in all the tantalising delights of festive far and find yourself feeling low, sluggish and regretful come January.I've come out of plenty of festive seasons many pounds heavier, feeling rubbish and ashamed that I couldn't just, well, stop. And yet, after completely recalibrating my relationship with food, I now enjoy it more than I ever did before. I know what I like, I know my indulgences and I also know what makes me feel good and what keeps me on track with my health and fitness goals.So, in this episode, I share how I’m approaching the festive season now that I’m someone who genuinely loves food, but no longer lets it control me. I talk about:why December used to be such a triggering month for methe cultural pressure to 'just have one more'choosing my indulgences instead of eating everything in sightwhy I eat before events (and how it stops that canapé chaos moment)dealing with food pushers at parties and family gatheringshow alcohol fits into all of thisnavigating the season with pleasure and boundarieshow I avoid that January shame spiralThis isn’t about being good or restricting, it’s about staying connected to yourself in a season designed to pull you away from your own instincts.Substack: The Emma Guns ShowInstagram: @emmaguns
Period Pain, PMS, PCOS: Why Movement Matters More Than You Think
27:38|This week, I’m diving into a fascinating piece of research I spotted in The Week; a meta-analysis of 82 studies from University College London looking at how physical activity affects menstrual pain and PMS. The findings are striking: women who move less have a 67% higher risk of painful periods and a 22% higher risk of PMS symptoms.But this episode isn’t just about the data, it’s about how it intersects with real life. I’m sharing my own PCOS story, from being diagnosed at 17 and barely moving, to being 47, active, and experiencing far fewer symptoms. We’ll also unpack the confused (and sometimes misleading) world of cycle-syncing advice online, including what’s genuinely helpful and what’s been oversimplified by social media.Plus, I’m talking about the growing role of GLP-1 medications like Ozempic and Wegovy: where they can fit into women’s hormonal and metabolic health, and why it’s not a choice between medication or movement. For many women, the two work beautifully together.Whether you experience period pain, PMS, PCOS, or you're simply curious about how movement and hormones overlap, this episode is all about giving you tools, not rules. Think of it as a realistic, compassionate look at women’s health, packed with evidence, lived experience, and nuance.In this episode:The UCL study linking activity levels to menstrual pain and PMSMy PCOS journey: 17 vs 47What cycle syncing gets right, and very, very wrongWhy influencers and experts like Dr Stacy Sims and Dr Vonda Wright create both empowerment and confusionHow exercise supports hormones, mood, metabolism, and overall cycle healthA realistic approach to training across the menstrual cycleWhere GLP-1 medications fit into the pictureWhy movement is a powerful tool but never the only one.
Why Women Over 40 Should Consider Creatine: The Midlife Muscle and Mind Boost You Didn’t Know You Needed
22:50|Creatine isn’t just for gym bros and bodybuilders, it’s one of the most researched, safest, and most effective supplements for supporting strength, energy, and brain health.In this episode, I break down a brand-new study that found women in perimenopause and menopause who took a small daily dose of creatine saw faster reaction times, better cholesterol levels, and even a 16% increase in brain creatine.We’ll cover:💪 Why creatine matters for women over forty⚡ What ATP is, and how creatine helps your body make more of it🧠 What the latest science says about brain and bone health🥄 How much to take, which form works best, and when to use it✅ My own four-year experience with daily creatine use (and what I’ve learned through The EC Method with Emma Storey-Gordon and Chloe Madeley)Whether you’re in perimenopause, postmenopause, or simply want to age stronger, this is your guide to understanding one of the most underrated supplements out there.🎧 Listen now, and discover why one small scoop could make a big difference.This is the Creatine Monohydrate I take.Mentioned in this episode:Nutrients (2025): “The Effects of 8-Week Creatine Hydrochloride and Creatine Ethyl Ester Supplementation on Cognition, Clinical Outcomes, and Brain Creatine Levels in Perimenopausal and Menopausal Women (CONCRET-MENOPA).The EC Method with Emma Storey-Gordon and Chloe Madeley
I Can't Stay Out of the Fridge
22:01|This week, I’m talking about food noise... That constant chatter about what, when, and how much to eat. The kind that has you circling the kitchen even when you’re not really hungry.I share how a simple early dinner (yes, an enormous salad out of a mixing bowl) completely quieted the noise in my head, and what that moment taught me about feeding myself properly instead of fighting myself.As someone in recovery from binge eating disorder, I also touch on how GLP-1 medications like Ozempic have changed the conversation around food noise, and what it’s like to re-learn peace around food without them.It’s about nourishment, compassion, and remembering that healing isn’t linear, but it is possible.🎧 Listen for:That moment when you’re circling the kitchen, thinking about crisps, and realise it’s not about willpower — it’s about hungerHow GLP-1s like Ozempic quiet food noise, and what it’s like to find that quiet without themThe slow, imperfect process of relearning how to eat after binge eating disorderWhy sometimes peace around food starts with a giant salad at 5 p.m.✨ Follow & Connect:Substack: The Emma Guns ShowInstagram: @emmaguns