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Don't Be A Dick with Gretchen Clark
Mom Guilt Isn’t Helping You
In this episode, Gretchen tackles the myth of balance and the guilt that comes with trying to do it all. Motherhood, ambition, marriage, business, phones, boundaries, and the pressure to be everything, everywhere, all at once.
She shares what’s actually helped her survive and stay present, why quality matters more than quantity, and how mom guilt doesn’t make you better, it just makes you smaller. Honest, reassuring, and deeply relatable, this episode is a reminder that ambition and caregiving don’t compete, your nervous system sets the tone, and the most important person to stop being a dick to is yourself.
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13. Network marketing: DBAD style
34:10||Season 2, Ep. 13In this week’s episode, Gretchen starts with a little life update, sweet family time with her dad and stepmom, the dogs doing better, and a few very unfiltered thoughts on the internet’s latest chaos. Then she gets into something she knows inside and out: network marketing, social media, and why so many people are sitting on a huge opportunity without fully going for it.She breaks down the difference between people who actually build something and people who stay stuck, from being coachable and consistent, to understanding that this business is simple, but not easy. Gretchen also talks about mindset, showing up authentically online, treating your platform like a real brand, and why half-in, half-out energy will never get you the results you want.If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lost your confidence postpartum, you’re second guessing your voice, or you know you’re not showing up with both feet in, this episode is the kick up the ass and the perspective shift you probably need.
12. Glimmers in Grief
24:38||Season 2, Ep. 12In this week’s episode, Gretchen is trying to bring a little more light back in. After a brutally hard season, she talks honestly about what Moose’s loss has reminded her of, who and what actually matters, why so much of the noise we stress about is meaningless, and how grief has a way of making everything crystal clear.She also gets into finding little “glimmers” during dark moments, how her definition of success has changed over the years, and why confidence really comes from proving to yourself that you’ll do what you said you would. From building a solid girl group, to making new friends as an adult, to not forcing yourself to be “strong” all the time, this episode is part life update, part pep talk, and part big sister advice.If you’ve been feeling a little lost, lonely, in transition, or just tired of carrying everything perfectly, this one will feel like a deep breath.
11. Moose; unconditional love, heartbreak and grief
27:41||Season 2, Ep. 11In this week’s episode, Gretchen opens up about one of the hardest losses of her life, saying goodbye to Moose, her soul dog, best friend, and constant companion for nearly a decade. This is a raw, unpolished conversation about grief, love, heartbreak, and what it looks like to lose a dog who felt like family.She shares the story of Moose’s final days, the devastating decision to let him go, and why being there for your pet in their final moments is the last act of love you can give them. Gretchen also reflects on the weight of grief, how lonely it can feel when life keeps moving around you, and the responsibility that comes with loving and caring for a dog so deeply.This episode is tender, honest, and incredibly emotional. If you’ve ever loved a pet, lost one, or are facing that heartbreak yourself, this one will stay with you.
10. The Funk Stops Here: DBAD Style
27:16||Season 2, Ep. 10In this week’s episode, Gretchen kicks things off with a very real life update, a gloomy Atlanta day, an emotional funk, and a lot going on behind the scenes, including a scary health situation with Moose. Then she gets into the actual point of the episode, how to feel your feelings without letting them run your life.Gretchen breaks down the difference between being emotional and being reactive, and why “your feelings are not facts” is the mindset shift that changes everything. She shares how she’s learned to get out of funks faster by facing them head on, taking action anyway, and focusing on the controllables, even when she’s having a full blown pity party.She also gives practical reset tools that actually work, movement, sunshine, doing one small task you can finish, getting ready for the day, and getting into service by solving someone else’s problem. If you’ve been feeling off, overwhelmed, or like your emotions are driving the bus, this is the blunt pep talk you needed.
9. The Postpartum Rules Nobody Says Out Loud: DBAD style
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8. Friendship breakups: DBAD style
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7. Big sister chat: DBAD style
45:13||Season 2, Ep. 7In this week’s episode, Gretchen gets real. She talks openly about the emotional and hormonal crash after miscarriage, why even the most positive people have off days, and what’s actually going on behind the highlight reel. She covers everything from letting go of what people think, money and work, to marriage & sex after babies, boundaries, and knowing when to walk away. It’s honest, grounding, and a little tough-love, the kind of episode you listen to when you need someone to tell you you’re not crazy, you’re not behind, and you’re doing better than you think.
6. For Anyone Who’s Lost a Pregnancy
13:31||Season 2, Ep. 6In this episode, Gretchen shares a deeply personal conversation about miscarriage and pregnancy loss. She opens up about losing what would have been their third baby, the loneliness that follows, and the quiet grief that lives in your body long after the moment passes.She also talks candidly about what helps, what doesn’t, what not to say to someone going through loss, and how simply being present can matter more than trying to fix the pain. With vulnerability, clarity, and care, this episode is for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss, is supporting someone who has, or has ever felt alone in grief that’s hard to explain.
5. The DBAD Art Of Dating
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