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D Is For Desire

The Man Who Slept With 10,000 Men

Season 1, Ep. 6

To say that Mark S. King has been busy during the 59 years he’s been on this planet would be an understatement. Not only has he spent much of his life working as an award-winning HIV/AIDS activist and journalist, but he’s also slept with close to 10,000 men.

On this episode, Mark walks us through his journey from sexual neophyte coming of age in the South during the 1960s to connoisseur of all that New Orleans' bathhouses had to offer in the ’70s to, finally, his current life as a happy husband in a monogamous relationship. He also tells how contracting HIV in the ’80s and watching his community be ravished by the disease affected his sex life ― but maybe not in the way you might expect.

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