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#E43 Breaking the Blueprint to be Happy šŸ˜Š | Lyndsey Clay

Season 3, Ep. 43
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My Guest on the podcast this week isĀ Lyndsey Clay,Ā a Qualified Coach, Networking Champion and Social Concierge, who is passionate about connecting people through supporting local businesses to create lasting personal and professional relationships, right here in Brighton & Hove.


Lyndsey's fascinatingĀ journey into entrepreneurship started during lockdown, but this is not just a story about business, as Lyndsey shares her personal journey through infertility, miscarriage, IVF and divorce, and how her experiences over the last few years have impacted her sense of self and of belonging.Ā 


Lyndsey shared how during some dark times, her road to recovery started by listening to others' stories, realising she was not alone, and in March 2017 she started a blog on Instagram promoting her newfound ethos with the motto:


Ā "when you donā€™t fit the blueprint, break the mould".Ā 


For me her story highlights that when life does not go according to plan, if you have enthusiasm and a positive attitude towards life and embrace it, you can change direction and find true happiness. She has started something extremely special with Connected Brighton as she builds her community, and I wish her continued success.Ā 


Everyone has a story to tell... Happy Listening šŸŽ§


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