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#112 The Real Reason Men Feel Lost | Healing Masculinity and Finding True Success
In this deeply honest and empowering episode with the brilliant Marina Lazaris, we dive into how modern men (and women) can reconnect with authentic love, real confidence, and emotional success, beyond the fake measures of status, wealth, or appearance.
This is a powerful conversation about redefining masculinity, rewriting success, and reconnecting with who we really are. Full of raw insights, practical tips, and hope for the next generation.
If you're a man feeling stuck, isolated, or unsure where to begin, this episode is for you.
If you're raising sons, working with men, or simply care about building a better future, this episode is for you.
šĀ Chapters and TimestampsĀ š
00:00 - Introduction
01:06 - The power of love stories: Creating a lasting foundation
06:58 - Teaching men how to confidently approach women again
10:00 - Chivalry, respect, and bringing back genuine kindness
18:00 - How fear of rejection and shame are holding men back
27:00 - Building real self-worth without wealth or status
36:00 - Understanding emotions: anger, sadness, joy as gifts
44:00 - The inner critic vs. inner champion: Rewriting your story
53:00 - Why community and connection are the real success metrics
1:02:00 - The loneliness epidemic: Shocking statistics on single men
1:10:00 - Finding purpose, passion, and your authentic self
1:18:00 - Healing masculine and feminine wounds in relationships
1:30:00 - How slowing down actually speeds up your success
1:40:00 - Practical daily habits for building confidence and self-love
1:50:00 - Service, gratitude, and the secret to a fulfilled life
1:55:00 - Final thoughts: Hope for the next generation of men
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01:58:53||Season 8, Ep. 115ā ļø Warning ā ļø This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.šļø Welcome to Series 8 of the Different Hats Podcast!In this deeply powerful and emotional conversation, Daniel Wilsher shares his mission to change the narrative around young men, masculinity, mental health, and the broken education system. Daniel opens up about his personal journey of childhood trauma after losing his father to suicide, his own mental health struggles, and the path that led him to dedicate his life to helping young people unlock their true potential.From vulnerability, role models, emotional intelligence, to redefining success for young men, this episode is packed with raw honesty, profound insights, and real solutions that can change lives.Whether you're a parent, teacher, leader, or someone struggling with your own mental health, this conversation is for you. It's about hope, healing, human connection, and taking action.š About This Episode:In a world thatās telling young men to be stronger, richer, more dominant, Daniel offers a different path. His work through LivedX is equipping schools, parents, and communities to have brave conversations that empower boys to define their own version of success, rooted in emotional intelligence, connection, service, and self-awareness.This is a masterclass in empathy, leadership, and the simple yet powerful truth: *sometimes all a young person needs is one adult to believe in them.š§ LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:š https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcastš Connect with Daniel Wilsher & LivedXWebsite: https://livedxlearning.comĀ Instagram: @danieljameswilsherĀ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-wilsher-448996168/š” If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search SevenĀ www.searchseven.co.ukNostos HoveĀ Ā www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervaleĀ Ā www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/*If you have been affected by any of the content during this interview you can reach out to any of the below:Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.orgMy Black Dog - https://www.myblackdog.co/mental-health-charityStories That Will Change How You See Success: Series 7 Round-Up
26:21||Season 7From CEOs and coaches to trauma survivors, storytellers, and change makers, Series 7 of theĀ Different Hats PodcastĀ was a powerful reminder that success isnāt always what it seems.Across 15 episodes, our guests didnāt just share their highlights, they shared their hearts.Series 7 also included the very special 100th milestone episode.Together, we explored themes of:š¬ Emotional honesty & vulnerabilityš§ Mental health, masculinity & identityš£ Healing from trauma & rewriting your storyš§āāļø Presence, purpose & soulful leadershipā¤ļø Redefining success beyond money or titlesWhat we learned?Success isnāt what youĀ have. Itās how youĀ feel. Itās showing up fully, healing out loud, and choosing presence over performance.If you missed an episode, or just want to revisit some of the most inspiring voices weāve hosted, nowās the time.šĀ Catch up on Series 7 here š https://youtu.be/D83ByTEq8vcThank you to every guest for your courage. And to every listener for helping us shape a better story.Together, weāre helping the world see success differently. š Subscribe, comment, and join the journey toĀ redefine successĀ through real, human stories.SPONSORED BY:Search SevenĀ www.searchseven.co.ukNostos HoveĀ Ā www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervaleĀ Ā www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/114. #114 āWhy Are So Many Men Still Suffering in Silence?ā | Andrew Jenkins on Mental Health & Masculinity
01:52:10||Season 7, Ep. 114What does it truly mean to be a man today? And how do we raise boys to grow into emotionally intelligent, resilient men?In this profoundly moving episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down withĀ Andrew Jenkins, mental health advocate, speaker, and breakout voice from BBCās The Traitorsāfor a conversation that cuts to the core of masculinity, trauma, and the power of vulnerability.Andrew shares his harrowing experience of surviving a car accident that changed his life forever, and how he stayed silent about the emotional aftermath for over two decades. Now, heās using his voice to help others find theirs.Together, we explore:š¬ The silent crisis facing young men. and why suicide rates are still risingš The role of sport and father figures in shaping emotional awarenessš Andrewās emotional journey from silence to telling his son "I love you" for the first time at age 22š Why men donāt need fixing, they just need someone to listenš£ How schools, sports clubs, and parents can create emotionally safe spacesThis is more than a conversation. Itās a call to action, to change how we talk to our boys, how we show up for one another, and how we redefine what strength really means.If you're a parent, coach, teacher, leader, or someone on your own healing journey, this episode might just change the way you see the world.Key Chapters00:00 āĀ Introductions04:10 āĀ The Crisis in Menās Mental Health: Where Do We Start?08:25 āĀ The Pressure of Modern Life and Climbing the Wrong Ladder11:30 āĀ Redefining Positive Masculinity in Schools and Sports17:30 āĀ The Power of Vulnerable Role Models22:50 āĀ Parental Pressure, Generational Trauma & Starting Conversations at Home29:10 āĀ The Moment Andrew Told His Son āI Love Youā35:20 āĀ Academy Dropouts & Mental Health in Young Athletes42:00 āĀ How Parents Can Be Better Equipped Emotionally47:15 āĀ Creating a Culture That Celebrates Emotional Intelligence55:00 āĀ Breaking the Cycle: Speaking to His Own Parents for the First Time1:02:30 āĀ The Fear of Regret and Taking Your Own Advice1:07:20 āĀ Menās Support Networks & Listening Without Judgement1:13:50 āĀ The Power of Hope, Safe Spaces & Prevention Over Cure1:20:00 āĀ Why Andrew Said Yes to The Traitors1:26:30 āĀ Behind the Fame: Finding Purpose Through Platform1:38:50 āĀ A Message to Young Andrew: Donāt Be So Hard on Yourself1:45:00 āĀ Redefining Success and Happiness: Final Reflectionš Subscribe, comment, and join the journey toĀ redefine successĀ through real, human stories.SPONSORED BY:Search SevenĀ www.searchseven.co.ukNostos HoveĀ Ā www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervaleĀ Ā www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/113. #113 Built a Business at 12, Paid Off His Parentsā Mortgage by 27: Tom Georgeās Story
01:57:02||Season 7, Ep. 113āDoing everything is hard. Doing nothing is hard. So choose your hard.ā ā Tom GeorgeAt just 12 years old, Tom George launched his first business with a stack of flyers and a borrowed lawnmower. By 27, he had paid off his parentsā mortgage.In this raw, inspiring and deeply honest episode of theĀ Different Hats Podcast, Tom shares his journey from a turbulent childhood, through early entrepreneurship, to becoming the director of multiple businesses, all driven by grit, purpose, and the desire to create a better life for those around him.This is not just a story about money, itās about mindset, resilience, leadership, legacy, and redefining success on your own terms. If youāve ever felt stuck, doubted your path, or wondered if itās too late (or too early) to start something, this conversation is for you.š§ Ā Youāll learn:How childhood adversity shaped his mindsetWhy he values attitude over education when hiringThe truth behind hustle culture and burnoutThe importance of emotional presence in leadershipWhat really drives long-term fulfilment and successš„Ā Hit subscribeĀ for more inspiring conversations that challenge the definition of success. https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcastš EPISODE CHAPTERS:00:00 ā Introduction01:18 ā āYou can have 1,000 problems⦠until your health goesā04:57 ā How Tom defines success (and why itās not about money)07:49 ā Self-awareness, presence, and growing into purpose13:45 ā What Tom looks for when hiring young people20:14 ā Tomās childhood, family trauma, and gaining weight as an emotional outlet31:27 ā Leaving the Jehovahās Witness faith and its aftermath33:19 ā How one business card changed Tomās life38:26 ā The Ā£6k summer at 12 years old that ignited his entrepreneurial fire47:01 ā Taking risks, changing lanes, and choosing your hard54:53 ā From ego-driven choices to purposeful business moves59:56 ā Hustle culture: mindset, mental health, and balance1:08:04 ā Why living in the present matters more than chasing the future1:10:44 ā Money vs Meaning: what truly drives Tom1:24:05 ā Dealing with business volatility and emotional resilience1:31:09 ā Relationships, insecurity, and proving youāre enough1:41:53 ā Tomās Advice to Young Entrepreneurs1:56:05 ā Final Reflections: Dream Big, Start Now⨠SPONSORED BY:šĀ Search SevenĀ ā Search marketing with purpose:Ā www.searchseven.co.ukš¬š·Ā Nostos HoveĀ ā An authentic Greek experience:Ā www.nostos-hove.co.ukšĀ RivervaleĀ ā Motoring made manageable:Ā www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X - Empowering bold thinkers at every stage: https://www.plusxinnovation.com/š Subscribe, comment, and join the journey toĀ redefine successĀ through real, human stories.⨠PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/111. #111 "Success Isnāt What You Think It Is" ā What 30 Years in Business Taught Me About Life
01:51:12||Season 7, Ep. 111What if everything you thought success looked like... wasn't the thing at all?In this emotional, wise, and deeply human episode, I sit down with Norman Mayhew, entrepreneur, mentor, and founder of The Sussex Sign Company, for a conversation that is as raw as it is inspiring.From growing up in poverty and dealing with childhood trauma, to building a million-pound business and learning how to define āenough,ā Normanās story is a moving reminder that the most valuable things in life often arenāt things at all.š¬ Norman opens up about:Growing up with violence, shame, and the tally man at the doorHis fight to break the cycle for his kids ā and the cost that came with itWhy dignity in work matters more than whatās in the bankThe lessons learned from 30 years in business and 60+ years in lifeThe moment he realised that love is the only thing that really countsThis isnāt a business podcast. This is a conversation about being human.š Whether youāre a founder, leader, parent, or someone just trying to hold it all together, this one will move you, shake you, and maybe even help you breathe a little deeper.šĀ Key Chapters:00:00 ā Introduction04:34 ā Redefining Success After 30 Years16:19 ā Childhood Trauma & the Drive to Break the Cycle21:26 ā The Regrets of Working Too Much29:29 ā The School System is Broken34:35 ā All They Wanted Was Time43:03 ā Dignity in Work: A Brotherās Story55:38 ā Building the Sussex Sign Company From Scratch1:10:22 ā Leadership, Loyalty & Lifelong Lessons1:47:11 ā Final Reflectionsš² Follow, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.š„Ā WATCH NOW on YouTube: š§Ā LISTEN on Spotify/Apple Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/differenthatsSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven:Ā https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X:Ā https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove:Ā https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale:Ā https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd āĀ https://h2productions.co.uk#DifferentHatsPodcast #NormanMayhew #RedefiningSuccess #Entrepreneurship #MentalHealthAwareness #Legacy #Love #Storytelling #Leadership #DignityInWork #Purpose #YouAlrightMate #BusinessWithHeart110. #110 The Trauma Doctor: How We Can Change Healthcare and Save Lives
01:42:31||Season 7, Ep. 110In this powerful and deeply personal episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Susanna Petche, a GP, trauma specialist, and CPTSD survivor, for one of the most open, vulnerable, and important conversations Iāve ever had on the show.Susanna shares her lived experience of sexual trauma, misdiagnosis, and the long road to healing. We talk honestly about what it means to be trauma-informed, in healthcare, education, workplaces, and in our day-to-day lives, and why reframing success starts with emotional safety.š In this episode, we explore:The hidden epidemic of trauma and CPTSDHow trauma shows up in the body and mindWhy vulnerability is a strength, not a weaknessEmotional intelligence and the future of educationLetting go of old success stories and rewriting new onesHow healing can begin ā even after decades of silenceš§ Whether youāre a parent, a leader, an educator, or simply someone on your own healing journey, this episode is full of insight, honesty, and, most importantlyāhope.āØĀ "Healing is possible for everyone."Ā ā Dr. Susanna PetcheKey Chapters: 00:00 ā Intro 03:52 ā What Success Used to Mean (And Why It Changed)06:26 ā The Diagnosis That Changed Everything11:33 ā Why Vulnerability Feels So Hard (Especially in the UK)15:19 ā Is the Education System Emotionally Broken?22:29 ā Ambition After Trauma: Still Striving, But Differently39:15 ā The Body Keeps the Score: Trauma in the Medical System46:34 ā The Need to Teach Boys, Not Just Protect Girls54:12 ā The Corrosive Power of Shame1:37:33 ā Final Message: Healing Is Possible for Everyone āš Learn more and listen at https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast#TraumaInformed #MentalHealthAwareness #CPTSD #HealingJourney #IWD2025 #RedefiningSuccess #DifferentHatsPodcast #VulnerabilityIsStrengthAbout Dr Susanna PetcheDr. Susanna Petche is a GP, innovator, CPTSD survivor, and samba reggae drummer with over 23 years of clinical experience. She specialises in psychological trauma and its impact on the mind, body, and spirit. Susanna is on a mission to raise awareness of psychological trauma and help create a more compassionate, trauma-informed world.To contact Dr Susanna Petche or find out more click here - https://www.trauma-sense.com/Special Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven:Ā https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X:Ā https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove:Ā https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale:Ā https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd āĀ https://h2productions.co.uk