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Overcome Your Inner Saboteur Part 2. Alex Patient
Overcoming Your Inner Saboteur Part 2
With Alex Patient and guest host Mike Hickman
Your inner hyper-critic may have been really helpful in motivating you to achieve some of your life and career goals. But is there a better, healthier, and psychologically safer way of achieving those goals? What would life be like if there was?
In this podcast we continue our conversation with Alex Patient as he explains further his coaching approach to dealing with imposter-like feelings - taming our inner saboteur.
In the last episode Alex explained how he works with clients to identify and describe the characteristics of the saboteur. He now develops his approach to combatting it by:
- Identifying the triggers that lead to the imposter coming out.
- Acknowledging that whilst your imposter will never go away, it can be managed in increasingly better ways.
- Understanding where trying conform to the expectations of other people can inhibit your own preferred working style.
- Recognising the impact of your working environment.
- Shaping your own working culture - you may have more power to do this than you realise, by clear what you stand for as a colleague or leader.
In our final section we explore what clients take with them out coaching sessions with Alex that help in their day to day lives. Alex outlines a number of practical steps that you can take.
Alex leaves us with the following challenge. Since we can disempower imposterism by speaking about it, which one person in your network would benefit from a conversation about the subjects raised in these podcasts? You may be giving them the opportunity to start the journey of dealing with their own imposter.
Contact Alex
Find out more about Alex’s work on his website PatientMind.
Contact Alex at patientmindcoach@gmail.com.
You can book a free one hour taster catching conversation with Alex, and enquire about his other services here.
Community First Yorkshire
We are pleased to welcome back Mike Hickman from Community First Yorkshire as our guest co-presenter.
About Coaching York and the Podcast
Coaching York is a community of coaches serving various communities businesses and organisations, especially in York and North Yorkshire. The Coaching York Podcast is curated and edited by Geoff Ashton in support of Coaching York’s mission to extend the reach of coaching, to enable more people to live its benefits.
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