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Loneliness Isn't the Problem—Your Thoughts Are

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Did you know that ruminating on loneliness is more linked to depression than actual loneliness? In this episode, we dive into the science of QZE—your brain's constant state of growth based on what you focus on—and how to shift your thoughts in the right direction. Learn how a simple "QZE Mindshift" using the Neurocycle can break the rumination-depression cycle and transform loneliness into meaningful connection. Tune in for practical steps and the surprising power of talking to strangers.


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