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Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

Ep 224: Boundaries, Abandonment, and Personal Growth

Season 4, Ep. 224

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we address listener questions around boundaries and dealing with significant changes in your relationships. We discuss themes around abandonment, setting boundaries, and accountability vs blame in relationships. 


What You’ll Gain from this Episode:


✨How a fear of abandonment can make setting and maintaining boundaries challenging/unclear, often leading to negative responses from others

✨The importance of accountability vs blame in relationships, and not personalizing others’ actions

✨Distinguishing between someone’s capacity to show up in a relationship and their desire to do so, and that a lack of capacity doesn’t necessarily mean a lack of care

✨How controlling behaviors stem from deep-seated fears of abandonment and emphasize the need for self-reflection and personal responsibility to take accountability in relationships and foster healthier relationships


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