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Ep 200: On Thriving with Brandi Sellerz-Jackson
Season 3, Ep. 200
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In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Brandi Sellerz-Jackson, a renowned birth and postpartum doula and what she calls a Life Doula (supporting people through various life transitions); the co-founder of Moms in Color, a Black mom collective centered on celebrating diversity in motherhood; and the creator of Not So Private Parts, a resource that removes the shame and stigma surrounding women’s issues.
Some Big Takeaways from this Episode:
✨ Why it’s so important to prioritize a relationship with yourself first so that all of your other relationships can be the icing on your cake - instead of all of the ingredients
✨How much is lost for mothers when they don’t have a community of women ushering them through the cataclysmic internal shift that occurs when you become a mama
✨The impact of childhood trauma on our adult relationships - and why sometimes our relationship ruptures can serve as a beautiful catalyst to investing in time and space for healing
✨How to do the work of discovering what our version of a life where we feel like we are thriving looks and feels like
You can purchase Brandi’s book on thriving here:
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There’s still time to join us for our upcoming Intensive January 18-21 in Malibu, CA:
The Return of the Sovereign Feminine where we will be supporting you in:
✨ Cultivating tangible tools for the development of a strong sense of Self
✨ Understanding how we live our lives from an authentic place of clarity, aliveness, and unapologetic execution of the life we want to embody
✨ Developing a set of actionable steps to take home with you and daily practices to maintain the skills you learn during this time
✨ Communing in the sacred space of fellowship and sisterhood in a way that awakens the intuitive wisdom that has been lying dormant within each of us for far too long
Payment plans are also available - email Sondra@vanessabennett.com for details.
If you find value in these conversations, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps us reach a larger audience looking for soulful insights!
Check out our newly launched online community, Cheaper Than Therapy the Community. Weekly process groups, live workshops, and one-on-one interactions with us and an amazing supportive community! Check it out here
Connect with Vanessa:
- Instagram: @vanessasbennett
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Connect with Dené:
- Instagram: @dene.logan
- TikTok: @denelogan
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