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Ep 203: Relationship Anarchy Pt. 2 with Annie Undone

Season 4, Ep. 203

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat back down with Annie Undone, a visionary artist and writer working to normalize diverse relationship styles and varied sexual experiences. She is a queer, kinky, relationship anarchist on a mission to incite individuals to experience personal revolutions. Get ready for an exciting and revolutionary conversation about deconstructing not only your romantic and sexual relationships with others, but your relationship with Self. 


Some Takeaways from this Episode:

✨ Decentering Romantic Relationships: The importance of an autonomous relationship with Self and the pursuit of your most authentic life, regardless of conventional societal norms and expectations.

✨Unpacking Jealousy: Welcoming jealousy in your relationships as an opportunity for growth rather than conflict, especially where it relates to non monogamy and polyamory

✨Doing the Work: The heavy emotional lifting required when you open yourself up to relationship anarchy, non monogamy, and polyamory, particularly with trust and attachment


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