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115 {Melanie Eyles} Raising 3 kids with varied neurodiversities

Season 1, Ep. 115

Trigger warning for suicide and sexual assault and domestic violence.

When it comes to resilience, there are few who have survived as much as Melanie Eyles.

Mel is a breathwork and trauma informed mindset and wellness coach and she has a lot of experience to draw from.

With a childhood founded in domestic violence and sexual assault Mel already a hard start and the health issues that raised their head later in life definitely had a connection to this start.

On top of that, Mel has faced a very different challenge later in life as the mother of children on the spectrum. While not trauma based, the position of carer has pushed her close to burn out, but her love for her children and her incredible mindset has helped her continue

In this episode Mel shares:

  • Her life until 15 years of age was influenced by domestic violence
  • How she was raped at the age of 14
  • The shocking reaction police had when she went to report her assault
  • The experience of having her son at the age of 17
  • How she had her concerns knocked back because she was a young mum
  • What changed after her son was diagnosed at 14
  • What it’s been like having other neurodivergent children
  • What it was like being the only neurotypical person in a family of neurodivergents
  • How she handles carer burn out and what it’s like
  • How she started making room for herself
  • The disorders she was diagnosed with and how not being able to medicate impacted her recovery
  • How breathwork became essential to helping her recover
  • How FND shows up in her world


Key Quotes

“I didn’t get to wear mum cap, it was carer cap I wore 90% of the time.”

“For a long time I thought there was something wrong with me.”


More about

Her breath work community on facebook is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/286134581194941/?ref=share&mibextid=K35XfP&rdid=x1acgs6B4gBWiw2q&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2Fqs82oiwgXj5io3Q7%2F%3Fmibextid%3DK35XfP

To access her ebook you can email her here: melanieeyes@gmail.com

You can follow her on Instagram at: eyles.melanie


You can get involved with the podcast online

To try out our resilience course: https://www.challengesthatchangeus.com/surviving-2-thriving-course1

On facebook in our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus

Or on Instagram: @challengesthatchangeus

If you want to contact the podcast, email us here: support@challengesthatchangeus.com

Or check out our website: www.Challengesthatchangeus.com

If you want to find out more about what Ali does, check out her business via the website: http://www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au

For her other business you can find it through the websites: www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au

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