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63 {Di Leal} In 40 days my daughter, husband and I got cancer

Season 1, Ep. 63

For this episode I am so excited to introduce you to a guest who is extremely special to me. I want to introduce you to my beautiful Aunty Di.

This is a story that when you see it on paper you think, there is no way that so much could happen to one family at one time.

In the space of forty days, my Uncle Barry, Aunty Di and cousin Laura were all diagnosed with cancer and this was all during the peak of the covid pandemic in the UK.

Their resilience and zest for life is extraordinary and for anyone going through or is going through the cancer world you know how challenging it can be and I am still blown away by how these guys tackled this head on.


In this episode Di shares:


-      The journey her family took to relocate to the UK as her sister died from cancer

-      Living through the covid pandemic with an immune compromised husband

-      What it felt like to suffer from long covid

-      Discovering her husband had cancer, then shingles

-      How she felt discovering she had breast cancer shortly after her husband started cancer treatment

-      The devastating moment they discovered her daughter also had breast cancer

-      What happened when her husband did get struck by covid



Key Quotes


“We went 6 weeks from being a perfectly normal family to 3/4 of it having a cancer diagnosis to deal with.”


“We thought cancer was bad, we knew nothing about covid.”


You can get involved with the podcast online


On facebook in our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus


Or on Instagram: @challengesthatchangeus

 

If you want to find out more about what Ali does, check out her business via the website:

http://www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au


For her other business you can find it through the websites:

www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.au


Or you can follow them on Instagram:


@Altitudefitnessarmidale

@trialtitudeperformance

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