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132 {Dante Amato} The recovery from childhood sexual abuse and abandonment

Season 1, Ep. 132

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Trigger warning: Domestic violence, sexual assault, mental health


While abuse within the family is something we have discussed on this podcast, one topic we have not covered as much, which often goes hand in hand, is the abandonment many children go through in this experience.

Dante Amato is renowned in the Personal Development space for the deeply nurturing and transformational spaces she holds. She is a Business Mentor, Transformational Life Coach, Spiritual Guide and Energy Practitioner. But besides being a coach, Dante is a woman who has walked the path of trauma and triumph, gaining valuable insights that fuel her mission to help others.

From an early age she experienced abandonment, abuse, manipulation and trauma which extended far into her life. As an adult she has done a loooot of healing and work, but her story is one that I think will resonate with a lot of people.

In this episode she shares:

  • Her experience of being abandoned by her mum as a child
  • The experience of spending time with her unstable mother as a child
  • Her experience with domestic abuse in her mother’s home
  • How her brother was manipulated and let down by their mother
  • How her relationship with her husband helped her
  • What happened when she was diagnosed with infertility
  • What her journey to heal was like
  • The thing that kept her going through recovery when things got really hard
  • How she developed her voice in adulthood
  • The way she was able to work through her anger
  • What she is doing now to help others


Key Quotes

“I had to completely cut my mother off. Really intentionally and energetically remove her from my life.”

“The constant thought that I had was that I just need to do everything that I can to make her love me.”

“When bad things happened, we would never ever speak about them.”


More about Dante

Dante’s website: https://www.danteamato.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedanteamato/?hl=en

Minibook: https://www.danteamato.com/mini-book-of-self-discovery


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