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42 {Andy Gourley & Dave Connett} Red frogs and parenting tips

Season 1, Ep. 42

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Trigger warning: Drug and alcohol use


Today’s episode features two incredible men, who have made it their mission to help others overcome one of the big journeys of our young adult lives. Schoolies, and the partying lifestyle.

Starting in the 90’s Andy and Dave began Red Frogs as an initiative to help reduce the risk to young adults when partying, and their endeavour has continued to grow and save lives.

So we got them both on the podcast to discuss the challenges that might be encountered when partying at schoolies and their advice for how to stay safe, or keep our kids safe.


In today’s episode Andy and Dave share

 

-      How Red Frogs started and their motivations for doing so

-      Advice for how to stay safe or keep our kids safe while partying

-      Tips on how to set boundaries for kids early on so they are safe when they get older


Key Quotes


“It’s all about environment, put a good kid in a bad environment you get bad results.”


“The power of little things you do is great. It’s not the big things but the little things consistent.”


“No matter how messed up it is, I can actually have some victory over these things.”


More About Red Frogs

 

You can find out more about Red Frogs via their website: https://redfrogs.com.au/


Or you can follow them on socials.


Instagram: @redfrogsau

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redfrogsau


You can get involved with the podcast online


On facebook in our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeus


Or on Instagram: @challengesthatchangeus

 

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http://www.trialtitudeperformance.com.au


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