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165 {Tara J Lal} Losing your brother to suicide and the resilience that follows

Season 1, Ep. 165

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Trigger warning: suicide, mental health

For Tara J Lal, trauma and loss is sadly nothing new, but in a sea of trauma, for some people it can still be one event that stands out as a truly identifying point and that is very much the case for Tara.

Amongst losing her mother to Cancer at 13 and dealing her father’s mental health battles it was the loss of her brother to suicide that defined a very clear before and after in her life. Now, Tara is the internationally published author of Standing on my Brothers Shoulders – Making Peace with Grief and Suicide. She is also a qualitative researcher, keynote speaker, and former firefighter and has won multiple awards for her work supporting mental health and suicide prevention particularly in the emergency services sector. Tara is passionate about integrating lived experience with research and storytelling to challenge traditional perspectives on mental health and suicide prevention. 

In this episode she shares:

  • Her early childhood realisation about her father
  • Her mother’s death from cancer when she was a child and how it shattered her family
  • How she leant on her brother after losing their mother
  • The moment her brother took his own life
  • The emotional turmoil she went through in the years following her brother’s death
  • How her struggles manifested into panic attacks
  • The impact of her father’s mental health and diagnoses
  • The moment that made her realise she could move forward after her brother’s life
  • How her coach tried to take advantage of her and her vulnerability
  • The moment in her adult life that prompted her to see a trauma focused therapist
  • Her path to her PHD
  • The big year where things piled up and triggered her trauma
  • How she works through her trauma now

 

Key Quotes

“It just felt like everything that I loved and every person that I loved in the world had been taken from me.”

“When I was 13 my mother died.”

“At some point I remember realising that my dad wasn’t well.”

 

More Information about Tara

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