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Challenges That Change Us

People share stories of the challenges they overcame and the lessons they learnt

In Challenges That Change Us, Ali Flynn interviews people who have overcome adversity, or have experience in dealing with challenges.They share the highs and lows of their stories, as well as the lessons they have learne
Latest Episode6/19/2022

13 {Mia Madafferi} Narcissists, High Conflict Personalities and Coercive Control

Season 1, Ep. 13
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of coercive control and domestic abuse.This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some help contact 1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service – Call 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.au, Full Stop Australia – Call 1800 385 578 or visit fullstop.org.auToday’s episode is another of our special expert episodes where a specialist shares their tips and advice for overcoming a particular style of challenge.In the episode we will be hearing from Mia Madafferi of Grey Rock Consulting.Mia is a proud mum who spent 16 years as a lawyer navigating complex disputes across a variety of industries.As an experienced lawyer, trained to stick to the facts and leave emotion out, she found this difficult to do personally and sought out help.Since then she has founded grey rock to help other women build and strengthen their muscles to navigate their situation. She specialises in working with clients who are trying to manage communicating with controlling, narcissistic and high conflict personalities.In today’s episode Mia shares:-Just how dangerous and destructive words can be-The surprising truth behind which women are most often victims of coercive controllers.-Her tips for managing and dealing with a high conflict personality.Key Quotes“Words can be abuse. And they can be absolute weapons of destruction.”“Listen to your instinct. More often than not, the beginning was something felt off.”“As a friend, your starting point is to be an ear and to hear them.”Again, these are contacts for free DV services:1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service – Call 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.auFull Stop Australia – Call 1800 385 578 or visit fullstop.org.auAnd if you’d like to contact Mia you can do so:www.greyrockconsulting.com.au and Instagram page is @greyrockconsultingIf you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance
6/19/2022

13 {Mia Madafferi} Narcissists, High Conflict Personalities and Coercive Control

Season 1, Ep. 13
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of coercive control and domestic abuse.This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some help contact 1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service – Call 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.au, Full Stop Australia – Call 1800 385 578 or visit fullstop.org.auToday’s episode is another of our special expert episodes where a specialist shares their tips and advice for overcoming a particular style of challenge.In the episode we will be hearing from Mia Madafferi of Grey Rock Consulting.Mia is a proud mum who spent 16 years as a lawyer navigating complex disputes across a variety of industries.As an experienced lawyer, trained to stick to the facts and leave emotion out, she found this difficult to do personally and sought out help.Since then she has founded grey rock to help other women build and strengthen their muscles to navigate their situation. She specialises in working with clients who are trying to manage communicating with controlling, narcissistic and high conflict personalities.In today’s episode Mia shares:-Just how dangerous and destructive words can be-The surprising truth behind which women are most often victims of coercive controllers.-Her tips for managing and dealing with a high conflict personality.Key Quotes“Words can be abuse. And they can be absolute weapons of destruction.”“Listen to your instinct. More often than not, the beginning was something felt off.”“As a friend, your starting point is to be an ear and to hear them.”Again, these are contacts for free DV services:1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service – Call 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.auFull Stop Australia – Call 1800 385 578 or visit fullstop.org.auAnd if you’d like to contact Mia you can do so:www.greyrockconsulting.com.au and Instagram page is @greyrockconsultingIf you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance
6/12/2022

12 {Matty Hourigan} Losing a loved one to suicide

Season 1, Ep. 12
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of depression, anxiety and suicide.This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.In today’s episode we will be talking with the incredibly brave Matty Hourigan.Matt is very bravely sharing with us his incredible story of growing up with his father’s battles with depression that eventually resulted in him losing his life to suicide a few years agoIn todays episode Matt shares:-What it was like growing up, aware of what was happening with his father-The story of the traumatic days when his father disappeared-How he maintains his own mental health and his advice for othersKey Quotes“I did see a level of vulnerability in my father that I had not seen before.”“The people that I surround myself with is what helped me get through that for sure.”“If they know that you’re there, that’s all that you can really do.”“A big part of my healing is...I’m so open and honest.”“If your cars not running right you go for a tune up, it's the same thing in yourself.”“If you’re not happy with your counsellor, go shopping.”“Get comfortable with asking uncomfortable questions.”Again, if you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some help, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.Matt also mentioned courses about bit coin trading, you can find those here: https://learntotradewithmba.com/mhourig4/If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance
6/5/2022

11 {Michael Crossland} Truly living despite the odds

Season 1, Ep. 11
In today’s episode we will be hearing from the incredible Michael Crossland, a businessman, elite sportsman and motivational speaker.After overcoming seemingly insurmountable odds, Michael has gone on to represent Australia in Baseball, tour with Richard Branson and the Dalai Lama as the opening speaker, opened an orphanage and so much more.But beneath all those successes lies the story of multiple, massive challenges that he had to overcome from a very young age.In todays episode Michael shares:-His inspiring story of overcoming cancer and other health diagnoses multiple times-How overcoming those challenges resulted in an incredible career-His routine for anchoring himself every dayKey Quotes“Hope is the most powerful word in the English dictionary.”“We must embrace the coolness of the shadows for us to have the ability to enjoy the warmth of the sunshine.”“We must give without remembering and receive without forgetting.”“Sometimes in life we have to hit rock bottom for us to wake up to ourselves.”“We don’t need to see the abs after we decide to get out of bed and do sit ups, we just have to decide to get out of bed and do sit ups.”If you would like to find out more about Michael you can head to his website www.michaelcrossland.comIf you want to read his amazing words, check out his book “Everything will be ok” where 100% of the profits go to charity.You can also follow him on social mediaInstagram: @michaelcrosslandFacebook: www.facebook.com/michaelcrosslandofficialIf you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance
5/29/2022

10 {Chelsea Pottenger} Perinatal, meditation and self care

Season 1, Ep. 10
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of perinatal depression, anxiety and suicide.This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.In today’s episode we will be hearing from Chelsea PottengerChelsea is an international wellbeing speaker, ambassador for mental health charities including RUOK? and The Gidget Foundation, and author of ‘The Mindful High Performer’. Her passion is helping busy minds reset, recharge and navigate the challenges of everyday life.Chelsea was a high level corporate worker when she was diagnosed with perinatal anxiety and depression and everything changed. After going through treatment Chelsea has made it her mission to continue the conversation on mental health.In today’s episode Chelsea shares:-Just how simple some of the things are that you can do to help your mental health-How her husband being home when she wasn’t expecting him to be saved her life-An inside look at perinatal depression and anxietyKey Quotes“The bravest thing you can do is ask for help.”“I just lost all sense of hope.”“I just lied to them that I was feeling ok…but the demons were there day 3.”‘Everyone’s kind of got a bag of shit that they carry.”If you want to order Chelsea’s book you can do so via here website: https://www.eqminds.com/You can also follow EQ Minds on Instagram: @eqmindsOr on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eqminds/You can also listen to their podcast ‘EQ Minds: Recharge Your Mental Health’, https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/eq-minds-recharge-your-mental-health/id1387764149And if you would like to find out more about the Gidget Foundation which helps to spread information about perinatal depression and anxiety you can find them here: https://www.gidgetfoundation.org.au/If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance
5/22/2022

9 {Ana-Maria Georgieva} Unshakeable Confidence and Making Change

Season 1, Ep. 9
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of depression, anxiety and suicide.This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.In today’s episode we will be hearing from another expert, who also has their own challenge story that they will be sharing as well.Ana-Maria is the creator of a unique coaching method designed to createpermanent lasting transformationin your confidence and mindset using neuro-linguistic reprogramming. Her background in academic research, social sciences, behavioral psychology, and cross-cultural communication, combined with adecade of personal immersionin various spiritual and wellness practices and the development of signature meditation techniques that her clients LOVE!In today’s episode Ana-Maria shares:-The power of Unshakeable confidence and how everyone can develop it-The importance of forgiveness and how she learnt to forgive her father-The specific work we can all do to develop that self worth and confidenceKey Quotes“When you start to feel fear, you are still fierce.”“Your net worth is not your self worth and your self worth is infinite.”“Once you commit to doing the work, every single person can change.”‘I realised that I can spend my entire life blaming my dad for my relationships...for how unhappy I was…or I can set myself free.”If you want to find out more about Ana-Maria you can do so via her website: https://lunavoda.com/If you want to start somewhere specific, she recommends trying this article she wrote:https://lunavoda.com/the-5-wounded-inner-child-archetypes-which-archetype-are-you/Or any of her social handles:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/A.M.GeorgievaInstagram: @luna_voda_coachingYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjlbnw_k-b96eC_zaIk__eQ/videosIf you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance
5/13/2022

8 {Brody Lee} Rising from the ashes

Season 1, Ep. 8
**Trigger Warning**Today’s episode discusses suicide, sexual assault, drug addiction, depression and anxiety.This may not be the right time or the right episode today. Give yourself permission to skip this episode and we will see you next week.If you find that this material concerns you or you ever need some health, reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14.In today’s episode we’ll be talking about hardship, recovery and success.This episode’s guest is Brody Lee, a good friend of mine and an incredible person.After working through drug addiction, suicide attempts and a lot more trauma, Brody now runs Beyond Impact, an organisation that helps businesses scale up with events.In today’s episode Brodie shares with us:-How repeated therapy helped him uncover deep trauma from his childhood-The drug addiction, near suicide attempt and repeated trauma he suffered through-The moment his mother appeared at his drug dealers front door and how it helped save him.Key Quotes“Whatever you are facing right now, judging on history, you are going to survive”“I don’t think I experienced pure unadulterated joy from the age of 6 until 31”“At the end of the day, I’d forgotten who I was”“I don’t see it (the trauma) as a dagger above my head, I see it as a fire under my arse.”“My trauma was hanging around my neck like a noose and I didn’t know it was there.”To find out more about Brody you can follow him on Instagram at @itsbrodylee or heads to his website www.beyondimpact.comYou can also follow him on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/itsbrodyleeIf you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance
5/8/2022

7 {Elizabeth McNeil} The medical waiting game

Season 1, Ep. 7
In today’s episode we will be talking about the waiting game that comes with medical issues and just how much stress that can cause.This episode’s guest is Elizabeth McNeil, a good friend of mine and an incredible women.Her husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer at the age of 30. At the time they had a 1 year old daughter and were soon to be pregnant with their second child.This is a discussion of diagnosis and treatment and the chaotic nature of the medical world.On top of watching a loved one suffer through cancer, whilst also pregnant, Elizabeth had to deal with the unknown, the challenges of the waiting period, Dr Google and more.In today’s episode Elizabeth shares with us:-How she had to learn to accept help in order to survive this process-The things that helped the most-The surprising and unlikely dangerous times that she struggled through the mostKey Quotes“Try as hard as you can to let go of the things that you can’t control because there will be so many things out of your control.”“I think I will always get that same knot in my stomach walking into any hospital.”“Even that moment after, when everything has stopped, you almost feel a little bit of a loss, how do you move on with your life without appointments?”‘Night times were hard for me…the quiet, it just felt so lonely.”If you’d like to hear and learn more from our community, join the facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/challengesthatchangeusFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance