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Ep.72: The Psychology of Heartbreak with Cole Zesiger

Season 4, Ep. 2

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In this episode, breakup and relationship coach Cole Zesiger joins me to break down the emotional and psychological stages of heartbreak. We dive into why your brain treats love like a life-or-death experience, the true purpose of the no-contact rule, and how to grieve fully without losing yourself in rumination. Cole shares how micro-wins can spark huge healing momentum, why silence can be a tool for self-growth, and whether love ever truly disappears after a breakup—or simply transforms. Whether you’re healing from a heartbreak or seeking to understand love more deeply, this conversation offers practical tools and profound insights for your recovery journey.


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Ep.71: Healing After a Breakup – My Twin Flame Journey and the Lessons It Taught Me: https://shows.acast.com/cant-host/episodes/68e522a0aa65ff9b03a47498


ABOUT COLE ZESIGER


Cole Zesiger is a breakup and relationship coach specializing in breakup recovery, dating advice, and relationship coaching. After a divorce at 23 and another breakup soon after, he began sharing his journey on social media—growing to over 750,000 followers across Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and more.


He has coached 2,000+ people through heartbreak, helping them either rekindle relationships in a healthy way or move on with peace. His practical approach blends psychology, attachment theory, and real-world strategies to guide people from heartbreak to healing. When not coaching, Cole enjoys time with his wife and daughter, playing guitar, dirt biking, and exploring the mountains. His debut book, Ex’s and No’s: The Breakup Advice You Don’t Want to Hear, offers a proven roadmap to rebuild self-worth, master communication, and create healthy, lasting love.


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