Canned Fruit Podcast

Welcome back to another exciting episode of the Canned Fruit podcast, a safe and brave space to have meaningful conversations with compassion and respect. Join your favorite trio, Danielle, Jessica, and Kia, as we conduct the first Canned Fruit ‘workshop.’ In this episode we reflect on the challenges inherent in initiating the difficult conversations we’ve talked so much about and strategies to make it easier. The barriers to initiating these types of conversations can be different for all of us, it could be a pit you feel in your stomach leaving you with dread or anxiety caused by a heaviness that stays with you. Many of us find comfort and relief in the resolution that comes after the conversation is had. Keep that in mind when you're feeling the urge to procrastinate a conversation that needs to happen. Let's lean into the strength and courage needed to have these conversations and find the solace of resolution.During this episode, you will learn about the following:[00:05] Topic of the Day: Initiating Difficult Conversations[03:06] Conversation Regarding Professional Mistakes and Need for Additional Colleague[05:22] Initiating a Difficult Conversation for Outreach Support[06:45] Conversation on Work Engagement and Power Dynamics[14:00] Discussion of Exclusion in Professional Environment[16:32] Conversation on Exclusion and Self-Reflection[18:43] Conversation on Finding a Sense of Belonging in the Workplace[22:10] Asking for What We Want Without Fear of Judgment[24:05] Validation and Clarity in Professional Roles[25:54] Overcoming Fear of Initiating Conversation[31:15] Conversation on Professional and Personal Relationships[33:21] Exploring the Impact of Professional and Personal Experiences on Communication[40:21] The Benefits of Introspection and Empathy[42:10] Reflection on the Impact of Historical Components on Communication[44:20] Exploring the Benefits of Open and Honest ConversationDon’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, Review, Like, and Share!Let’s Connect!Follow the Canned Fruit podcast:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannedfruitpod• Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/cannedfruitpodListen to the Canned Fruit Podcast on:• Podcast Website: https://shows.acast.com/canned-fruit-podcast

Are you really bad at apologizing? Why is it hard to recognize your mistake, take ownership & correct it? Instead of letting a difficult situation define you, take this chance to show your strength, courage, and capacity for growth.Welcome back to the Canned Fruit podcast with your hosts, Kia, Jessica, & Danielle!In this incredible episode, we delve into why most people have a bit of a challenge with apologies, three barriers to apologies & how we identify with the different barriers. Moreover, we discuss the six components of a good apology, self-referencing versus external referencing apologies as well as recognizing your mistakes independent of how anyone else thinks.Ultimately, we recognize the power of vulnerability, accepting that you need to apologize & to not expect anything in return. Let's embrace the opportunity to build stronger relationships through making amends!During this episode, you will learn about:[00:49] Introducing today's topic[03:07] Three barriers to apologies[04:47] How we identify with different apology barriers[12:43] The hardest apologies & why it’s hard to admit that you made a mistake[20:34] The connection between emotional intelligence & apologies[22:15] Self-referencing apologies versus external referencing apologies[24:24] Components of a good apology[26:23] An in-depth look at a self-referencing apology with Kia[36:29] Being on the receiving end of apologies[41:38] Perceptions of weakness & the power of vulnerability in apologizing[46:22] Our final thoughtsDon’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, Review, Like, and Share!Episode References & ResourcesBarriers to Apologizing and How to Overcome Them (Psychology Today)7 Steps to a Genuine ApologyThe art of a heartfelt apology (Harvard Health Blog)Let’s Connect!Follow the Canned Fruit podcast:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannedfruitpodLinktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/cannedfruitpodMListen to the Canned Fruit Podcast on:Podcast Website: https://shows.acast.com/canned-fruit-podcast

How do you find a balance between knowing who you are, what you stand for, communicating where you stand, and listening to the other person?Welcome to another incredible episode of the Canned Fruit podcast with your hosts Jessica, Kia & Danielle. In this episode, we discuss standing in your truth without being swayed by what someone else says, taking Nos, tips for anyone struggling with expressing their opinion, and delve deeper into the subject of boundaries, especially as it relates to conversation. Moreover, we talk about the concept of resolution and the possible awkwardness that comes with the resolution, more so with colleagues or in the workplace.Discover the power of standing in your truth and living authentically, avoiding or ignoring your truth (and the truth of others) can create and breed resentment. Ultimately, understanding who you are and standing confidently in your beliefs is a powerful way to connect with yourself and others. When we communicate our convictions -- our truth -- honestly and with kindness, living authentically with our hearts and minds open, we create space to listen and learn from each other.During this episode, you will learn about:[01:07] Introducing today's topic[01:18] Defining the concept of “standing in your truth.”[07:30] The difference between standing your truth and setting limits [10:12] Allowing people to have contrary thoughts to yours and remaining firm in your truth [15:55] Standing with what you think is right rather than adopting someone else’s truth [16:37] Can you have a fruitful and candid conversation without knowing your truth? [22:00] Finding a balance between being truthful, not being an expert, and shaming others [27:20] Taking the Nos and how to address them [29:05] Advice to anyone struggling to say their opinion [34:32] What does resolution look like in conversation? [40:00] The awkwardness that comes with standing in your truth [42:14] What's more important between the environment and your truth [46:00] Embracing kindness & honesty while standing in your truth [47:42] The benefits of standing in your truth [50:00] Resentment as a by-product and a silent relationship killer of not standing in your truthDon’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, Review, Like, and Share!Mentioned BooksThe Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias by Dolly ChughHow to Read a Book: The Classic Guide to Intelligent Reading by Mortimer Adler & Charles Van DorenLet’s Connect!Follow the Canned Fruit podcast: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannedfruitpodLinktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/cannedfruitpodMore ProductsListen to the Canned Fruit Podcast on:Podcast Website: https://shows.acast.com/canned-fruit-podcast

Wondering how to keep your conversations on track? Expectation management and the courage to set limits and boundaries is essential for navigating challenging conversations. In this episode, we consider two boundary-setting processes: proactive and reactive. Either method can foster a candid and fruitful conversation. With the proactive approach, you consider boundaries before the conversation starts. It is about creating a safe environment for ourselves and set intentions with our partner(s) before we enter into any conversation with them. In the reactive approach, you’re changing the atmosphere and setting boundaries after the conversation has started or as it is ongoing. Join the conversation with your hosts, Kia, Jess, and Danielle, as we discuss the proactive vs. reactive ways of setting boundaries, compartmentalization, the distinction between limits and boundaries, and the power of saying “No.” We also talk about the importance of understanding why you are setting boundaries because even though boundaries are personal, they also impact our relationships.We share tips for creating healthy conversation boundaries and responding to reactive boundaries in conversations. Plus, learn the easiest way of setting expectations in a difficult conversation and the techniques for navigating a challenging conversation. Tune in and open up with us for more insights!Timestamps for the key points discussed in the episode:[01:20] Today’s focus; Setting boundaries and expectations in conversations [01:51] Proactive vs. reactive ways of setting boundaries[08:20] Compartmentalization in boundaries[12:57] The power of saying “No”[17:10] The importance of understanding why you are setting boundaries [19:18] Tips for creating healthy conversation boundaries [19:37] #1 Consider the needs, expectations, and boundaries of your conversation partner[23:19] #2 Understand that saying “No,” is the demise of your relationship [23:41] #3 Clearly communicate to your conversation partner that the boundaries are for you and not because of them or the relationship you have with them[28:37] #4 Understand that saying “No” to others is saying “Yes” to yourself [30:13] #5 Appreciate that other people’s boundaries are not about you  [33:52] How to respond to reactive boundaries in conversations [44:52] The easiest way of setting expectations in a difficult conversation[51:06] Techniques for navigating a challenging conversationRemember to Subscribe, Rate, Review, Like, and Share!  Let’s Connect!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannedfruitpod/Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/cannedfruitpodReferencesIn this episode, Jessica mentions a “Nightingale hospital.” For our unfamiliar listeners, this type of temporary medical facility is set up in the United Kingdom.

The most important aspects of a conversation are the emotions and feelings communicated. In order for a conversation to be effective, the participants need to have an understanding of their emotions and feelings. Moreover, understanding how we “feel” about our feelings also plays a significant role in shaping our thoughts & behavior and helps us connect better with others.In this episode, we discuss how to manage meta-emotions in a conversation, emotional manipulation in conversations, how to control your emotions during a difficult conversation, and explore the idea of consuming other people’s emotions. Further, we address the differences between feelings and behaviors, and understanding the differences between feelings and behaviors helps us manage our emotional well-being more effectively. Open up and tune in to join our candid and fruitful conversation!In this episode, you will learn the following:[01:55] Today’s theme; Feelings (Empathy) & Emotions [02:45] The definition of emotional intelligence[05:03] Meta-emotions: The way we “feel” about feelings [10:31] How to deal with emotions and meta-emotions in a conversation[11:43] Being perceived as manipulative when we express our feelings[20:32] What less emotive people feel when they are in conversations [24:33] Controlling your emotions during a difficult conversation[28:28] Why people feel the need to create protective walls to shield their emotions [35:30] Consuming other people’s emotions[37:03] Difference between feelings and behaviors Don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, Review, Like, and Share! ResourcesArticle: Meta-Emotion: How You Feel About FeelingsLet’s Connect!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannedfruitpod/Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/cannedfruitpod

Welcome to another fantastic episode of The Canned Fruit Podcast with your hosts, Kia, Jess, and Danielle. In this episode, we discuss our four universal truths, the philosophies and actions necessary for you to have a candid and fruitful conversation. Our “Truths with a Capital T” are: (1) Honesty & Authenticity, (2) Active Listening, (3) Introspection, and (4) Validation or Empathy. Moreover, we discuss the difference between authenticity & honesty in conversations, the four steps to active listening, knowing YOUR why, and the difference between empathy and sympathy.  Open up and tune in! During this episode, you will learn the following:[00:02] Introduction to the show[01:13] What’s in for you in today’s episode; 4 Truths with a T[03:00] #1 Honesty and authenticity[04:52] What it means to be authentic [09:24] The difference between authenticity & honesty in conversations [15:22] People’s perception of honesty and authenticity[20:44] #2 Active listening [21:01] The four steps to active listening [31:10] #3 Introspection  [33:27] Why introspection is essential before engaging in conversations[35:27] Introspection in terms of knowing your why[39:49] #4 Validation or Empathy[41:10] The difference between empathy and sympathy [45:53] How to practice empathy [55:52] A recap of the episode and final words[56:51] How to connect with us Love the show? Follow, Rate, Review, Like, and Share!Resources MentionedBook: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown Song & Lyrics: Alright by Kendrick Lamar (Spotify)Article: Are You an Active Listener? These 4 Steps Will Prove ItLet’s Connect!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannedfruitpod/Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/cannedfruitpod