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CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Q&A: I'm Tired Of Being My Parent's Parent
Season 2
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Feeling tired of being the parent to your parents is a common struggle, especially when they rely on you for emotional or even physical suapport. It can be overwhelming to manage their needs while trying to prioritize your own life and the family you're building. Setting boundaries is essential, not just for your well-being but also to maintain a healthy relationship with them. Healing from past hurts and learning how to rebuild relationships with parents who may have caused pain is crucial. It's important to protect yourself emotionally while still offering compassion and understanding, but also recognize when you need to step back to preserve your mental health.
In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers real questions from callers about relationship struggles with their parents. Listen and learn how to set boundaries and protect your emotional well-being and the family you are building while maintaining respect for your parents.
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What You Will Learn:- [00:01] Intro and what in for you in today’s show
- [00:26] How to set boundaries with parents in a compassionate way
- [06:08] Healing from physical and emotional abuse from parents
- [10:43] How to build a relationship with parents who have hurt you
- [15:54] When your parent wants to apologize resources
- [16:23] Wrap up and end of the show
- “If you are a parent, set boundaries and make sure parenting your parents doesn't take away from your ability to parent your own child because there will be consequences.” [05:38]
- “You can’t have a real relationship without safety.” [10:34]
- “Healthy relationships are healthy and important for children; Unhealthy, abusive, or dangerous relationships are unhealthy for children.” [13:22]
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