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408 - To Turtle or To Volcano

Coming out can be one of the most pivotal moments in someone’s life. This week on By the Bi, Angela and Bradford delve into the emotional spectrum of coming out experiences. Do you “turtle,” retreating into your shell to protect yourself, or do you “volcano,” erupting with a bold declaration of identity? Both approaches are valid and deserve space and understanding.


In this episode, we explore the different ways people embrace their truth, from the quietly courageous to the loudly proud. We’ll share some of our stories, offer advice, and provide insights into how each approach impacts personal well-being and relationships. Whether you’re considering coming out or seeking to support someone who is, this discussion aims to affirm and inspire, offering a compassionate look at the journeys of self-acceptance and public acknowledgment.


Tune in to By the Bi for a heartfelt exploration of pride, protection, and the personal narratives that shape our coming out stories. Subscribe now for more thoughtful conversations on sexuality, identity, and the power of living authentically.




The Trevor Project, www.thetrevorproject.org

PFLAG, pflag.org

LGBT Life Center, lgbtlifecenter.org

Naz & Matt Foundation, www.nazandmattfoundation.org

Human Rights Campaign, www.hrc.org

ACON, www.acon.org.au

QLife, qlife.org.au

Twenty10, twenty10.org.au


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