Bullied Brain

"You were in a wasteland. And not only were you in a wasteland, but the two of them were predatory. I mean it's pretty unbelievable."Link to download the transcript - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1_DWFHwg1VYGdXogg_Erp5tZlc5VfDwWg/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=117716030289987185197&rtpof=true&sd=trueJennifer Fraser is the author of "The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health". She has a PhD in Comparative Literature and The Bullied Brain is her fourth book. She draws on medical, neuroscientific, and neurobiological research to examine what happens to brains that are bullied and abused. Jennifer's an award-winning educator and works as a coach, consultant, and international presenter. Neither Jennifer nor I are mental health professionals. If you feel you need help please seek out a licensed professional in your area. We are creating these episodes to show you what is possible. There was a time when I felt broken. That I didn't fit in anywhere. I'm not going to lie and say everything is rainbows and unicorns, but my good days far outnumber my bad. It's taken a LOT of work, both on my own and with therapists. Everyone's journey is going to be different. The only constant is if you want something to change you need to take action. Link to Jennifer's website: https://bulliedbrain.com/Jennifer is available to consult or speak, you can reach her at JenniferFraserPhD@gmail.com. As an Amazon Associate, I earn commissions from qualifying purchases.For more information about Eric Jorgensen and True North Disability Planning you can find us here:Email: eric@specialneedsnavigator.usWeb: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://truenorthdisabilityplanning.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Podcast (ABC's of Disability Planning) - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/abcs-disability-planning⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Waypoints - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://waypoints.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: @TrueNorthDisabilityPlanningTwitter: @NeedsNavigator

Jennifer sets the tone with a question she wouldn't give Eric a heads-up about. They start the podcast with this question. In Jennifer's words, she's grateful to Eric for acting like a "research subject". The question asked references our first episode. I will tell you she was shocked by what I shared and how I normalized it. She wants to know how I survived my childhood.Link to Dr. Lisa Barrett's book "How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain"John Medina's BooksDr. Lee-Anne GrayJennifer Fraser's booksEpisode TranscriptJennifer Fraser is the author of "The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health". She has a PhD in Comparative Literature and The Bullied Brain is her fourth book. She draws on medical, neuroscientific, and neurobiological research to examine what happens to brains that are bullied and abused. Jennifer's an award-winning educator and works as a coach, consultant, and international presenter. Neither Jennifer nor I are mental health professionals. If you feel you need help please seek out a licensed professional in your area. We are creating these episodes to show you what is possible. There was a time when I felt broken. That I didn't fit in anywhere. I'm not going to lie and say everything is rainbows and unicorns, but my good days far outnumber my bad. It's taken a LOT of work, both on my own and with therapists. Everyone's journey is going to be different. The only constant is if you want something to change you need to take action.Link to Jennifer's website: https://bulliedbrain.com/Jennifer is available to consult or speak, you can reach her at JenniferFraserPhD@gmail.com.As an Amazon Associate, I earn commissions from qualifying purchases.For more information about Eric Jorgensen and True North Disability Planning you can find us here:Email: eric@specialneedsnavigator.usWeb: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://truenorthdisabilityplanning.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Podcast (ABC's of Disability Planning) - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/abcs-disability-planning⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Waypoints - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://waypoints.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: @TrueNorthDisabilityPlanningTwitter: @NeedsNavigator

In this episode, Jennifer does a deeper dive into topics introduced during episode 1.Topics Covered include:The mind of a psychopathStockholm Syndrome, explaining how Eric's father was able to do the things he did"learned helplessness" and a "perception of inescapability"Dr. Laura Crawshaw (The Boss Whisperer) "Taming the Abrasive Manager, How to End Unnecessary Roughness in the Workspace""Post Traumatic Growth".Link to Episode TranscriptJennifer Fraser is the author of "The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health". She has a PhD in Comparative Literature and The Bullied Brain is her fourth book. She draws on medical, neuroscientific, and neurobiological research to examine what happens to brains that are bullied and abused. Jennifer's an award-winning educator and works as a coach, consultant, and international presenter. Neither Jennifer nor I are mental health professionals. If you feel you need help please seek out a licensed professional in your area. We are creating these episodes to show you what is possible. There was a time when I felt broken. That I didn't fit in anywhere. I'm not going to lie and say everything is rainbows and unicorns, but my good days far outnumber my bad. It's taken a LOT of work, both on my own and with therapists. Everyone's journey is going to be different. The only constant is if you want something to change you need to take action.Link to Jennifer's website: https://bulliedbrain.com/Jennifer is available to consult or speak, you can reach her at JenniferFraserPhD@gmail.com.As an Amazon Associate, I earn commissions from qualifying purchases.For more information about Eric Jorgensen and True North Disability Planning you can find us here:Email: eric@specialneedsnavigator.usWeb: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://truenorthdisabilityplanning.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Podcast (ABC's of Disability Planning) - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/abcs-disability-planning⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Waypoints - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://waypoints.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: @TrueNorthDisabilityPlanningTwitter: @NeedsNavigator

Jennifer's interview with Mark Divine (Ep. 378, "Breaking the Bonds of Abuse")Zoltán Kövecses "Emotion Concepts" "It's really hard to forgive someone who doesn't take accountability for what they do".Not enough to apologize, you also need to change your behavior."Is forgiveness unhealthy?"Exercise - see the person as childrenDo the work to rewire your brainEpisode TranscriptJennifer Fraser is the author of "The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health". She has a PhD in Comparative Literature and The Bullied Brain is her fourth book. She draws on medical, neuroscientific, and neurobiological research to examine what happens to brains that are bullied and abused. Jennifer's an award-winning educator and works as a coach, consultant, and international presenter. Neither Jennifer nor I are mental health professionals. If you feel you need help please seek out a licensed professional in your area. We are creating these episodes to show you what is possible. There was a time when I felt broken. That I didn't fit in anywhere. I'm not going to lie and say everything is rainbows and unicorns, but my good days far outnumber my bad. It's taken a LOT of work, both on my own and with therapists. Everyone's journey is going to be different. The only constant is if you want something to change you need to take action.Link to Jennifer's website: https://bulliedbrain.com/Jennifer is available to consult or speak, you can reach her at JenniferFraserPhD@gmail.com.As an Amazon Associate, I earn commissions from qualifying purchases.For more information about Eric Jorgensen and True North Disability Planning you can find us here:Email: eric@specialneedsnavigator.usWeb: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://truenorthdisabilityplanning.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Podcast (ABC's of Disability Planning) - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/abcs-disability-planning⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Waypoints - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://waypoints.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: @TrueNorthDisabilityPlanningTwitter: @NeedsNavigator

In this podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Fraser and Eric Jorgensen discuss the process of reconstructing personal history and self-identity after experiencing childhood trauma. Jennifer suggests that when one's history and narrative were disrupted during their formative years, they must learn to construct their history independently. Sharing one's story and reflecting upon it can be cathartic and helps reinforce their personal history. The ability to think about one's thoughts and engage in metacognition is a valuable aspect of the human brain.Eric reflects on his own experiences, acknowledging that he had friends in high school and the Navy but feels he wasn't the best type of friend. Jennifer reassures him that it's natural to make mistakes and learn from them, emphasizing that the brain learns through trial and error. She acknowledges the challenges Eric faced in making friends due to lacking a natural attachment developed through healthy parenting. However, she commends his growth mindset, intellectual curiosity, and willingness to put in the effort to learn and improve himself.The conversation also touches upon the exhaustion that comes with introspective work and the importance of getting a second chance. They highlight the value of the Navy in providing individuals with a fresh start and the opportunity to evolve and change from their younger selves.Overall, the podcast explores the process of reconstructing one's personal history, the challenges faced after experiencing trauma, and the importance of self-reflection and personal growth.Link to Episode Transcript - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1H9xCTPAva06d5cN0tAL7SdE65TCKEpdG/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=117716030289987185197&rtpof=true&sd=trueLink to Jennifer's website: https://bulliedbrain.com/Jennifer is available to consult or speak, you can reach her at JenniferFraserPhD@gmail.com.As an Amazon Associate, I earn commissions from qualifying purchases.For more information about Eric Jorgensen and True North Disability Planning you can find us here:Email: eric@specialneedsnavigator.usWeb: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://truenorthdisabilityplanning.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Podcast (ABC's of Disability Planning) - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/abcs-disability-planning⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Waypoints - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://waypoints.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: @TrueNorthDisabilityPlanningTwitter: @NeedsNavigator

This episode's focus is the significance of connection for the brain's development and survival. It highlights that the brain's ability to develop and function properly relies on social connections and how neglecting this aspect can lead to severe consequences, as exemplified by a study on children raised in poor conditions. We also touch on the brain's tendency to perceive reality based on its wiring and experiences, leading individuals to interpret the same situation differently. We explore the effects of childhood abuse on later life and the importance of authentic self-reflection and empathy. We discuss how the lack of authentic self-reflection during childhood can lead individuals to fabricate different identities to fit in and avoid harm. The text also emphasizes the significance of empathy and how it can be a powerful tool in overcoming past traumas and improving emotional well-being.Link to Episode Transcript - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jU2f8e5TxIVcF2_YzLZDd83TG3yNIRWr/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=117716030289987185197&rtpof=true&sd=trueLink to Jennifer's website: https://bulliedbrain.com/Jennifer is available to consult or speak, or you can reach her at JenniferFraserPhD@gmail.com.As an Amazon Associate, I earn commissions from qualifying purchases.For more information about Eric Jorgensen and True North Disability Planning you can find us here:Email: eric@specialneedsnavigator.usWeb: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://truenorthdisabilityplanning.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Podcast (ABC's of Disability Planning) - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://anchor.fm/abcs-disability-planning⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Waypoints - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://waypoints.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: @TrueNorthDisabilityPlanningTwitter: @NeedsNavigator