Building Resilience

Do you ever feel like any minute now, someone’s going to figure out you don’t actually belong, even though you do?In this episode, Leah reframes imposter syndrome not as a flaw to fix, but as a signal that you’re growing. Through neuroscience, personal reflection, and powerful analogies (yes, including “bicycle face”), she explores the real reason you feel like a fraud—and why it’s actually a good sign.You’ll learn:• Where imposter syndrome really comes from• What your nervous system is doing behind the scenes• Why new experiences trigger old survival responses• How neuroplasticity explains the discomfort of growth• The 5 types of imposter syndrome—and which ones resonate with youThis is part one of a two-part series that will help you stop spiraling and start honoring the discomfort of doing something meaningful.⸻⏱️ Timestamps00:00 – The fear of being “found out”01:04 – What we’re covering in part one02:05 – Where imposter syndrome originated03:18 – The “bicycle face” analogy (and what it means today)05:09 – What if imposter syndrome is a sign of growth?05:44 – Your nervous system’s job is survival, not success06:54 – Neuroplasticity: why growth feels awkward07:34 – Leah’s personal story: launching her Resilience journal09:02 – Your body reacts to newness like a threat10:08 – Your brain is scanning for patterns—and gets anxious without them11:44 – The 5 patterns of imposter syndrome (by Dr. Valerie Young)12:00 – #1: The Perfectionist13:11 – #2: The Expert14:08 – #3: The Natural Genius15:20 – #4: The Soloist16:24 – #5: The Superhero17:38 – These are survival strategies, not flaws18:22 – You might show different types in different areas of life18:33 – A final reframe: imposter syndrome as a growth signal18:42 – Preview of part two: regulating & taking action19:01 – Closing⸻🧠 Explore More Tools📝 Get my Resilience Journal to support your healing journey:📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1🧘‍♀️ Join the Nervous System Journaling Club→ https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1🎓 Learn more:→ The Advanced Nervous System Resilience Training: https://www.amazon.com/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.aXvnLQ5iNMBUxzQYYcrgjg.Ygo_CcAbKDLG3ax4WgUAUannnVgrozTHO0DU3k-rSfw&dib_tag=se&keywords=Mental%2Bhealth%2BJournal&qid=1748849188&sr=8-1&th=1📬 Stay Connected💌 Newsletter: leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com/newsletter📱 Instagram & Facebook: @leahdavidsonlifecoaching

Do you replay conversations in your head, second-guess your words, or feel a wave of shame from just one comment or look?You’re not too sensitive and you’re not alone. You’re simply human with a nervous system doing its job to protect you.In this episode, we unpack why you take things personally and what you can do to shift that response. This isn’t about “toughening up” or just thinking positive. It’s about understanding the neurobiology behind emotional reactions and learning how to regulate your state so you can respond with clarity, not collapse.🔍 What You’ll Learn:• How your nervous system interprets disapproval as a threat• Why “story follows state”—and how to shift both• The “slime” analogy for handling criticism• A powerful mindset tool called the “second score”• How to create emotional space between stimulus and response⸻🕰️ Timestamps:03:27 – Why thinking differently isn’t enough03:55 – Survival wiring and neuroception05:20 – Strategy #1: Critique behavior, not identity06:25 – Separate who you are from what you did06:56 – Strategy #2: Reframe criticism as feedback07:44 – The “Slime” analogy for handling feedback10:02 – Brené Brown’s arena metaphor: who deserves your energy?10:52 – Not all feedback deserves full volume11:16 – Strategy #3: Mind reading and nervous system state12:20 – Story follows state: Team Hyper, Hypo, and Resilient13:37 – The Safety Sequence: Regulate before you reframe14:27 – Strategy #4: Track and anticipate your personal triggers15:12 – Strategy #5: Validate your emotions first16:07 – Strategy #6: The Second Score – how you respond matters18:19 – Criticism as a growth opportunity18:40 – Final thoughts: It’s not a mindset flaw—it’s your nervous system⸻🧠 Explore More Tools📝 Get my Resilience Journal to support your healing journey:📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1🧘‍♀️ Join the Nervous System Journaling Club→ https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1🎓 Learn more:→ The Advanced Nervous System Resilience Training: https://www.amazon.com/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.aXvnLQ5iNMBUxzQYYcrgjg.Ygo_CcAbKDLG3ax4WgUAUannnVgrozTHO0DU3k-rSfw&dib_tag=se&keywords=Mental%2Bhealth%2BJournal&qid=1748849188&sr=8-1&th=1📬 Stay Connected💌 Newsletter: leahdavidsonlifecoaching.com/newsletter📱 Instagram & Facebook: @leahdavidsonlifecoaching

You know that moment when someone says something small, but your reaction feels huge? Like, your heart’s racing, your mind is spiralling, and you’re suddenly questioning everything?Or maybe you lose it, and then after think "Oof, where did that come from?"(Or I've often seen others lose it and also wonder, "Oof, where did that come from!")One of my clients recently asked a question that I know so many of us have wrestled with:"If something triggers me today, how do I know if I'm just reacting from an old wound - or it something's actually not ok right now?"Yes. Yes. YES.That’s exactly what this week’s episode of the Building Resilience podcast is all about.We’re diving into:* Why your nervous system doesn’t do timelines* How “story follows state” (and what that really means)* 6 powerful tools to help you sort out what’s now and what’s then* And how to bring compassion no matter what you findNervous System Journaling Club: https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1#nervoussystemhealing #nervoussystemregulation #nervoussystemreset

Have you ever felt yourself pulling away right as things started going well? You finally feel joy, connection, or success—and suddenly you sabotage it, shut down, or spiral. You’re not broken. You’ve just hit your nervous system’s upper limit.In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah Davidson explores why so many of us unconsciously resist the very things we want—and how to shift that. Self-sabotage isn’t a failure of discipline—it’s a brilliant act of protection when our body doesn’t feel safe holding more.Through nervous system science and real-life examples, Leah walks you through 10 powerful strategies to expand your capacity, calm the fear of goodness, and stop pulling back when it matters most.This episode will help you:✔ Understand the root of your self-sabotage (and stop blaming yourself)✔ Rewire your nervous system to feel safe with ease, success, love, and rest✔ Recognize the subtle ways your body says “too much”✔ Use micro-moments and bottom-up tools to build real resilience✔ Expand your emotional capacity without triggering collapseThis episode is for anyone who’s ready to grow—but wants to do it in a way that’s gentle, embodied, and truly sustainable.—⏱ Timestamps:00:00 – Do You Sabotage the Good Stuff?00:43 – Welcome to Episode 231: What’s Really Behind Resistance01:12 – Sabotage Is Protection in Disguise02:01 – The Body’s Response: “Too Fast, Too Far, Too Unfamiliar”02:49 – The Hidden Beliefs That Keep Us From Expanding03:48 – Why You Can’t Think Your Way Into Safety04:30 – Resistance Isn’t a Motivation Problem—It’s a Mismatch05:37 – Strategy 1: Get Curious With the Part That’s Afraid06:48 – Strategy 2: Anchor Safety in Small Doses07:55 – Strategy 3: Let Yourself Hold the Good Just a Beat Longer08:49 – Strategy 4: Practice Safe Exposure to Joy10:03 – Strategy 5: Expand Through Creative Expression10:49 – Strategy 6: Use Identity Work to Reinforce Safety11:46 – Strategy 7: Regulate Before You Strategize13:01 – Strategy 8: Slow Down Your Intake14:25 – Strategy 9: Stay Connected While Growing15:14 – Strategy 10: Be Gentle With Your Nervous System—📝 Get my Resilience Journal to support your healing journey:📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1🎓 Nervous System Journaling Club:https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1—📌 Tags:#Resilience #NervousSystemHealing#TraumaRecovery #PolyvagalTheory#EmotionalRegulation #GriefAndHealing#HealingTools #NervousSystemSupport#BottomUpRegulation #SafetySequence#TraumaInformedHealing #AnxietyTools#HowToHeal #HealingAfterLoss#CoRegulation #NervousSystemCoach#LeahDavidson #BuildingResiliencePodcast

Have you ever been blindsided by something so painful it split your life into a “before” and “after”? Loss, betrayal, trauma, uncertainty—whatever the moment—you’re not broken, you’re human.In this powerful episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah Davidson unpacks the core habits of resilient people—through the lens of nervous system science. Inspired by Lucy Hone’s TED Talk on grief and resilience, Leah shares how real healing happens: not by pushing through, but by tuning in to your body, building capacity, and connecting with others.This episode will help you:✔ Understand what your nervous system is really doing when you feel stuck✔ Shift from survival mode into regulation✔ Use simple tools to hold both grief and growth✔ Learn why co-regulation and community are essential to healing✔ Stop thinking your way out—and start healing from the inside outFeaturing practical tools like “The Safety Sequence,” you’ll walk away with insights you can apply in real time to come back to safety, connection, and wholeness.—Timestamps:00:00 – If You’ve Ever Been Blindsided by Pain…00:26 – Welcome to Episode 230: What Resilient People Do01:29 – Inspired by Lucy Hone’s TED Talk on Resilience02:17 – Why Resilience Lives in Your Body (Not Just Your Mind)02:40 – Lesson 1: Resilient People Know Crap Happens03:07 – What is Neuroception? How Your Body Scans for Danger04:21 – Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn: Understanding Survival States05:33 – These Responses Aren’t Flaws—They’re Intelligent05:59 – Lesson 2: Resilient People Choose Where to Focus06:49 – Equal Airtime: Holding Grief & Gratitude Together07:45 – Bottom-Up Tools: Breath, Grounding, Journaling, Doodling09:37 – Lesson 3: Ask “Is This Helping or Harming Me?”10:26 – Re-Engaging the Brain: Why This Simple Question Works11:22 – Befriending Your Nervous System: The Foundation of Healing12:08 – What Is the Safety Sequence & How to Use It13:02 – What Regulation Actually Looks Like in Real Life13:25 – Lesson 5: You Don’t Have to Do It Alone13:55 – Why Co-Regulation Is Essential for Healing14:47 – You Can Grieve and Grow at the Same Time15:07 – Nervous System Work Is the Path HomeNervous System Journaling Club:https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1Get My Resilience Journal to help you learn about nervous system regulation:📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1📌 Tags:#Resilience#nervoussystemhealing#traumarecovery#polyvagaltheory#emotionalregulation#griefandhealing#healingtools#nervoussystemsupport#BottomUpRegulation#SafetySequence#TraumaInformedHealing#anxietytools#howtoheal#healingafterloss#coregulation#NervousSystemCoach#LeahDavidson#BuildingResiliencePodcast

Do you ever feel like life is happening to you—like you’re stuck in survival mode and just waiting for permission to live fully?In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah Davidson invites you to step out of fear and into your true power as a creator and co-creator of your life.You’ll learn:• How survival mode keeps your nervous system stuck and limits creativity• Why belief in something bigger (whatever that means to you) can unlock deeper resilience• The hidden costs of living in fear and waiting for proof before you act• Practical ways to shift into creator energy using imagination, visualization, journaling, and doodling• How regulating your nervous system first helps you lead with vision—not survivalIf you’re ready to stop outsourcing your power and start creating from trust, faith, and aligned action, this episode will gently guide you back to possibility.Remember: you were not meant to simply survive—you are here to create, co-create, and live expansively.Nervous System Journaling Club:https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1Get My Resilience Journal to help you learn about nervous system regulation:📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1🎧 Tune in now and reconnect with the powerful creator within you.

Stressed out with no time for meditation, breathwork, or long walks? In this video, Leah Davidson teaches you the Safety Sequence—a rapid, science-backed 3-step tool to reset your nervous system in the middle of real life. Whether you’re frozen, spiraling, or shut down, this technique will ground you, reconnect you, and keep you in the game.Learn why your body panics even when you’re safe, and how to stop it—fast.Nervous System Journaling Club:https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1Get My Resilience Journal to help you learn about nervous system regulation: 📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.N5IUVWcPthGPmTEq-jxcQPIk6tJpD99-XnLM99GwSBXJAkLyMdFN0CDDHLFdHGcc6EyM4DO8tnnH7ji7szBwh9d_76vqB8xH_Je8QPF3ROg.IGiR3gw4FamENcFMJSSGVx4FuM81aMBrYya9EStW-lY&dib_tag=se&keywords=Mental%2Bhealth%2BJournal&qid=1742349206&sr=8-1&th=1🔔 Hit Subscribe for more nervous system hacks and resilience-building tools!#AnxietyRelief #NervousSystemHealing #TraumaRecovery

Have you ever had a brief moment with a stranger that unexpectedly lifted your mood or shifted your entire day? Whether it’s a kind smile from a passerby, a chatty waiter who made you feel seen, or a stranger’s calm presence in a stressful moment—these small interactions carry a surprisingly big impact.In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah explores the powerful role strangers play in regulating our nervous system. You’ll learn:• Why your nervous system craves small social interactions• How strangers can actually help you co-regulate• Practical, everyday ways to spark meaningful moments with people you don’t knowLeah also shares two touching stories—one from her grandmother’s life during Nazi Germany, and another from a simple dinner out—that illustrate how fleeting connections can help us feel grounded, safe, and deeply human.These are more than just “nice moments”—they are opportunities for resilience, healing, and community in a disconnected world.Nervous System Journaling Club:https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1Get My Resilience Journal to help you learn about nervous system regulation: 📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.N5IUVWcPthGPmTEq-jxcQPIk6tJpD99-XnLM99GwSBXJAkLyMdFN0CDDHLFdHGcc6EyM4DO8tnnH7ji7szBwh9d_76vqB8xH_Je8QPF3ROg.IGiR3gw4FamENcFMJSSGVx4FuM81aMBrYya9EStW-lY&dib_tag=se&keywords=Mental%2Bhealth%2BJournal&qid=1742349206&sr=8-1&th=1🎧 Tune in now and discover how strangers can help you come home to yourself.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “That’s not how I meant it to come out…” or felt the sting of someone else’s words lingering long after? The truth is, our words have weight—and they either build or break. But it’s not just what we say; it’s how we say it, and even more, how we’re showing up in our nervous system when we do.In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, we explore the invisible but powerful role your nervous system plays in communication. Are you speaking from safety—or from survival? Are your words landing as support or as a threat?Join me as we unpack:• What it means to be a builder or a wrecker in everyday interactions• How nervous system cues influence how your words are received• Real-life strategies to communicate with more compassion, clarity, and regulation• Why co-regulation matters—and what isn’t your responsibility• And six practical tools you can start using today to build better connectionsNervous System Journaling Club:https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about?ref=06e003b61b8148ebbafd3a067f3cc2e1Get My Resilience Journal to help you learn about nervous system regulation: 📝 Resilience: A Guided Journal for Emotional Well-Being & Nervous System Care📌 Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mental+health+Journal&hidden-keywords=B0DNRSLV9F&ref=nb_sb_noss_1📌 Amazon CA: https://www.amazon.ca/Mental-Journal-Anxiety-Management-Self-Care/dp/B0DNRSLV9F/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.N5IUVWcPthGPmTEq-jxcQPIk6tJpD99-XnLM99GwSBXJAkLyMdFN0CDDHLFdHGcc6EyM4DO8tnnH7ji7szBwh9d_76vqB8xH_Je8QPF3ROg.IGiR3gw4FamENcFMJSSGVx4FuM81aMBrYya9EStW-lY&dib_tag=se&keywords=Mental%2Bhealth%2BJournal&qid=1742349206&sr=8-1&th=1This episode is a gentle but eye-opening invitation to reflect, reset, and rewire how you show up in your relationships—with yourself and others. Let’s build better, together.