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I Didn't Know It Was Abuse: Recognizing Red Flags | Stephanie Strickland (Bitch Sesh)

Season 2, Ep. 21.5

In this episode of Bitch Is a Bad Word, Stephanie Strickland shares a story so many women will recognize—even if they don’t yet have the words for it.


She thought she had the life she wanted: a husband, a home, a child. But behind closed doors, things weren’t adding up. Her husband controlled the money, twisted the truth, and left her questioning her own reality. There were no bruises. But there was damage.


Stephanie takes us through the confusing fog of emotional manipulation, financial control, betrayal, and isolation. She opens up about the terrifying moment she realized she was not safe, and how long it took her to finally break free.


If you’ve ever felt like something was wrong but couldn’t quite explain it—this episode is for you.


⚠️ Trigger Warning: Topics include emotional manipulation, control, trauma bonds, heartbreak, and toxic relationship dynamics.


📞 If you or someone you know is in danger, call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788.


Stephanie Strickland is a Dallas, Texas native, an award-winning and best-selling author, and a sought-after motivational speaker. Stephanie is a survivor of domestic violence who passionately spends her time advocating for victims and survivors of abuse. When she is not busy writing award winning books, and appearing on podcasts, she is sharing her inspiring story with others at speaking events.

Stephanie believes that by openly sharing her life, removing her mask, and walking in her truth Stephanie is showing women you don’t have to live in the shame of your past. Through her encouraging words Stephanie is showing us how to overcome our insecurities, our fears and seek the life God has promised us. She continuously demonstrates how living a life with self-acceptance, patience and faith can lead to a life that is thriving and fulfilling.

Stephanie is a God believer and is highly active in her church, where she is a facilitator over a women’s class, and is a part of many other ministries. To connect with Stephanie please see the links below.

www.stephaniedstrickland.com

Instagram - @iamsdstrickland

Facebook - @StephanieDStrick



WHAT YOU'LL HEAR

- The subtle signs that something wasn’t right

- How abusers weaponize religion and family expectations

- What it feels like to question your own memory

- Financial control and secret spending

- How to finally listen to your gut—and act on it

- The truth about abuse that leaves no physical scars


Stephanie’s story is one of heartbreak, resilience, and waking up to the truth.


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