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Cha and Chat - Ep 48 - Finding Community as a Muslim Queer Man at the AOZIZ Festival

Season 1, Ep. 48

In this wide ranging episode, I talk to Harry about his experience at the AOZIZ Festival, a primarily Muslim Queer event where he was able to find belonging for the first time in his life. The episode covers Brown/SWANA* community issues like separation within Brown/SWANA communities, racism, allyship, and primarily the AOZIZ Festival. *SWANA=South West Asian & North African.


More can be found here:

AOZIZ Festival https://www.aoziz.com/accueil / @festival_aoziz_marseille

Calem institute: https://calem.eu/english2/index.html / @calem.institute



In this award-winning show* Aman explores personal growth, self-improvement, and navigating life as a South Asian man in today’s world. Whether diving into South Asian culture, identity, mental health, or broader topics like goal-setting, motivation, and emotional intelligence, each episode offers practical advice and honest conversations to help you become a better brother, husband, son, and man.


If you’re looking for guidance on balancing cultural expectations with your own path, improving your mindset, and unlocking your full potential, this podcast is for you.


Follow us on Instagram and Facebook @BrownButBetter as well as on TikTok: MrAmanSinghK


*The award was given by his mum for being the best (and only) podcast she’s ever listened to.

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