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Should I stay? Or should I go?

Season 1, Ep. 4
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Please note, if you are under any threat, go. Seek help and advice, and remove yourself from a dangerous situation. Safety first.


In this episode of kitchen table conversation, John and Lou look at one of the big and often difficult decisions, "Should I stay? Or should I go?". They talk you through what you should consider before making a decision, and what to do if you are under any threat. We understand that for many people the decision to stay or go can be very difficult. People love their partner and will often say that they are perfectly nice and reasonable when they're not drinking, and they don't want to leave. Equally, living with an alcoholic is very tough and takes its toll on you and your family, and it is completely understandable to feel you cannot live with the situation any longer.


Remember, your decision won't be "wrong", and it isn't permanent. You are living under great stress. Be kind to yourself.


For more information on the service Bottled Up provides, visit: www.bottled-up.com


Dr John McMahon is a professor and was the senior lecturer for addiction counsellors at the University of the West of Scotland. He has led prominent studies into alcohol addiction for more than 15 years. Before this, for many years, John had an addiction to alcohol. He has been sober for over 40 years.


Lou Lewis is a professional counsellor and the co-founder of Bottled Up with John. Lou's first husband had an addiction to alcohol for many years, from that experience and her counselling Lou has a deep understanding of the difficulties of living with problem drinkers. 


John and Lou are married and live in England. They founded Bottled Up in the hope that it would help change your life.

The Bottled Up program is innovative and advocates that the partners of alcoholics can introduce changes to their lives, which will empower them and influence their drinkers to change. If you live with an alcoholic partner, or are looking for help to quit drinking, then Bottled Up is for you.


For more help and advice visit www.bottled-up.com


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