Born on The Rock: Gibraltar Birth Stories

KEY TOPICS: 4 pregnancies, miscarriage, hyperemesis gravidarum, genetic testing, IVF, secondary infertility, caesarean, female sterilisationTo complete Season 5, I’m thrilled to welcome back our first ever returning guest! Former nurse Tara Montegriffo recorded her daughter's birth story in November 2024 as part of Season 1. At that stage, she and her husband faced secondary infertility and a very uncertain future, as they tried to grow their family.After the couple welcomed their daughter in 2021, they suffered two devastating losses – one in the second trimester, due to a genetic condition. As time passed without conceiving, they embarked on IVF treatment at a fertility clinic in Spain... and in this episode, Tara walks us through what happened next.She describes the medical stages and genetic testing process, plus lifestyle approaches. Despite successfully becoming pregnant, Tara was unable to get excited due to first-hand experience of miscarriage... and the return of an old ‘friend’ – hyperemesis gravidarum. Her description of debilitating sickness and nausea is powerful – rendering her bed-bound and vomiting up to 30 times a day. She felt deep guilt at being unable to care for her daughter, and researched strong medications in a bid to manage the condition.We discuss the huge contrast between an emergency and a planned caesarean, before the safe arrival of the couple’s second daughter in December 2025. Tara allowed herself a slower, more peaceful recovery too. We have an honest chat about introducing an older child to a new baby, and family planning decisions too.Despite significant physical, emotional and financial challenges, it's encouraging to hear how Tara navigated secondary infertility and completed her family… as we complete season 5 of the podcast. I’m so grateful to Tara for returning to share the second chapter of her Gibraltar Birth Stories! (Recorded June 2026).

KEY TOPICS: 2 births, caesarean, retroverted uterus, failure to thrive (FTT), postpartum hypomania, bipolar disorder (BPD), obesity, maternal mental health (MMH)Emily Adamberry Olivero (MBE GMD MBPSS) is the Chairperson of Clubhouse Europe, and former chief director and founder of Clubhouse Gibraltar – a local charity providing mental health support. In this episode she gives an honest account of her motherhood and mental health journey through the 1980’s and 1990’s.Emily grew up in the 1950’s as one of eight siblings. She married and was expecting in 1983, but through pregnancy her weight provoked unwelcome comments. Due to a tilted uterus, Emily had a caesarean. Her daughter was an ‘easy’ baby, but didn’t gain weight for many weeks. We discuss mother's instinct, and the feeding journey.Emily returned to work and seemed to adapt well to motherhood - at first. But she felt ‘wired,’ and barely slept, as a colleague urged her to seek help. Her postpartum hypomania and subsequent bipolar disorder took time to diagnose, and she describes referrals to doctors in Spain. Emily went to great lengths to avoid admission to KG5, the psychiatric hospital… where three of her brothers had also received care.With medication, time and her spiritual faith, Emily recovered and founded the first psychological support group on the Rock in 1992. As she gained qualifications, she also gained confidence that she now had a mental health ‘safety net,’ to have another baby. An easier pregnancy and recovery saw the birth of her second daughter, a decade after her first.Worldwide, around 13% of women who have just given birth experience a mental health disorder.* Untreated, it can become so severe that it impacts daily functioning and care for the baby... and may even pose serious risk to the mother's life ⚠️ But maternal mental health disorders are treatable; as Emily says - "there IS life after a mental health episode.' She's passionate about empowering all in our community to live satisfying lives, and you could say she 'gave birth' to Clubhouse Gibraltar! Thank you Emily for sharing two Gibraltar Birth Stories on such important - and often taboo - topics (Recorded May 2026).Local Resources:If you’re facing a mental health crisis, call the GHA on 111.Local support info: https://www.gha.gi/public-health/mental-health/For more on Clubhouse: https://clubhousegibraltar.com/GibSams: https://gibsams.gi/Maternal Mental Health Resources:*World Health Organisation (WHO): https://www.who.int/teams/mental-health-and-substance-use/promotion-prevention/perinatal-mental-healthMaternal Mental Health Alliance: https://maternalmentalhealthalliance.org/about-maternal-mental-health/perinatal-mental-illnessesWorld Maternal Mental Health Day: https://wmmhday.org/ 

KEY TOPICS: 3 births, adolescent pregnancy, natural deliveries, miscarriage, hypotension, advanced maternal age, large age gap, jaundice, grandparentThis week’s guest is Kationa Matto: a mother of three with qualifications in child development, wellness and yoga… and a parenting career spanning four decades! From a teenage pregnancy in the 1990’s to a last baby in her 40’s, she’s had a fascinating journey with her husband by her side. At the time of recording, her children were aged 34, 30 and 10.Kationa explains what it was like to discover pregnancy... as she prepared to finish school at sixteen. Despite family support, she eloquently describes the weight of shame she carried through her trimester, and for years after. Kationa and her husband wed, and after a long labour she delivered their son at the old St Bernard’s hospital in 1992.The couple felt ready to grow their family four years later, and conceived easily. Kationa embraced this pregnancy, though had a more painful labour for the birth of their daughter in 1996. There’s a sweet story about the siblings meeting with a gift as they settled into life as a four, believing the family to be complete.But in 2014, Kationa researched books and meditation resources to approach parenting challenges – and it marked the start of a powerful journey of self-discovery. She describes the strong vision of having another child with her husband – “I had to.” Sadly the couple faced a first trimester loss, before a healthy pregnancy with their last child.Kationa explains the connection with her baby before his fast birth, and feeling truly ready this time as well as proud... not ashamed. These are three totally different experiences that Kationa tells so well, and I’m so grateful to her for sharing her Gibraltar Birth Stories! (Recorded June 2026).

KEY TOPICS: 1 birth, induction, natural delivery, step-parentOur guest this week is Davina Barbara – a mother with plenty of experience in local culture and broadcasting, and with a very unique date of birth herself! It’s an empowering listen as she shares her positive parenting journey.From a step-mother ‘soft launch,’ to expecting a baby with her husband, Davina describes an easy conception and a good pregnancy. She gives an account of the induction process, after going 10 days past her due date in 2009.Her husband was by her side at birth… along with her midwife sister, who delivered the baby!* Davina was grateful for the trust and support in her ‘dream team,’ …although her recollection of time spent in active labour was different to her sister’s! It was a textbook delivery compared to others in hospital at the time and Davina recovered well, although she reflects very honestly about the challenge of establishing breastfeeding.Davina describes what it was like to return from maternity leave to a full-time role in the public eye (she worked 18 years at GBC), as well as the huge value of family support in navigating motherhood. We discuss how powerful women are, and changing perceptions of self-identity over time, plus how parents can actually learn from children. It's such an engaging listen, and I’m so grateful to Davina for 'broadcasting' her Gibraltar Birth Story! (Recorded April 2026).*Bonus listen!* Davina's midwife sister recorded her birth story with the podcast - check out Episode 13: 'A Midwife Special, with Denise Camilleri.'

KEY TOPICS: 2 births, induction, fast delivery, ventricular septal defect (VSD), intrauterine growth restriction (IUGR), jaundice, postpartum depression (PPD), pandemicIt’s a story that grows in drama this week with Stephanie Piri, her husband and two pandemic pregnancies.Stephanie describes how her body let her know she was expecting, days before tests confirmed it! Despite social distancing, she had pregnancy company with her sister giving birth in the same week. Stephanie describes going past her due date and being induced, before the fast arrival of her little girl.There’s a lovely story about discovering their second pregnancy after the couple conceived quickly. Everything changed at the 20-week scan however, with the a heart issue identified. The rest of the pregnancy became a blur of appointments, trips to Spain and multiple scans. Worryingly, a second condition was identified: Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IUGR).Their son measured small… and then stopped growing. Stephanie was induced at 37 weeks and believes this saved his life. She had a choice on delivery preference and experienced another fast birth, with a very small placenta. Her son arrived just before Christmas 2022 and recovered well from jaundice. There was positive news about his heart issue too.Stephanie speaks honestly about the impact of the pregnancy stress on her mental health. She sought postpartum counselling support, with encouragement that it’s OK to ask for help.Stephanie highlights the importance of measuring placenta during scans, speaking up in appointments and practising self-care… plus how her family took surprise positive inspiration from a children’s TV show! I’m so grateful to Stephanie for sharing her two Gibraltar Birth Stories (Recorded May 2026).

KEY TOPICS: 2 births, retroverted uterus, caesarean, miscarriages, premature, grandmotherLocal cooking enthusiast and author Jessica Montado serves up a flavour of what motherhood was like in the 1980’s and 1990’s this week – and what it’s like to be a grandparent now. In fact, there are touching references to her own mother and grandmother’s influences throughout our chat.Jessica married in 1987 and was pregnant with her first son at the age of 24 the following year. There was an unusual twist to her pregnancy tests, and a ‘near miss’ situation in the first trimester, before an induced labour and caesarean due to her tilted uterus.We discuss the concept of not feeling fully ‘ready,’ for motherhood, plus differences in maternity care and the short period of leave that was usual in those days. Jessica also highlights the challenges of accessing support and information – relying on advice from other women in the community, as opposed to the internet now. She references two miscarriages before becoming pregnant with her next son - another 'bun in the oven' - in 1994.Jessica’s second birth was a harder experience as her son arrived eight weeks prematurely. He remained in Gibraltar and although both mother and baby recovered well after the C-section, she describes the lasting impact of that emotional time. We discuss adapting to life as a family of four, navigating the teenage years and what it’s like to become a grandmother – “the best thing that ever happened to me.”Jessica’s own grandmother was a big influence in her life, as captured in her recipe book full of home-cooked family meals and memories that she herself passes down now to her children and grandchildren. She reflects on great positive advice she would give to her younger self too. Thank you so much Jessica, for ‘serving up’ this great episode! (Recorded May 2026).Jessica’s book is out now: “CosyKitchenCorner: A Legacy of Recipes from Lely's Kitchen.”https://www.facebook.com/Cosykitchencorner

KEY TOPICS: 1 pregnancy, triploidy syndrome, partial molar pregnancy, termination for medical reasons (TFMR)⚠️Trigger warning: please note this episode involves emotional discussion of baby lossIn this powerful episode, local teacher Aidele Casciaro-Beazley bravely describes a whirlwind journey with her husband… from the high of discovering pregnancy on honeymoon, to the low of a loss by the second trimester, due to a rare chromosomal condition.Aidele had a good start to pregnancy, though everything changed at her 12 week scan. Nuchal scan measurements indicated anomalies, requiring further investigations in Spain. Devastatingly, findings confirmed that their baby had Triploidy syndrome: a chromosomal anomaly that is incompatible with life.Aidele explains the details of the fatal diagnosis, and the small comfort in discovering their baby’s gender. The newlyweds were given bleak options that no parent should have to face - including termination for medical reasons. She reflects that their much-wanted baby Aliza Natalie was simply ‘not meant to be here,’ and their heart-breaking choice was made purely through love 💜It’s an incredible difficult listen as Aidele outlines the procedure that followed, risks to her own health, and reflects on key issues in this situation. She's grateful for the compassion shown by medical staff during her surgery and recovery, as well as huge family support.Aidele speaks very eloquently about this emotive, taboo topic – and so soon, too: with bittersweet irony this episode was recorded on Triploidy Awareness Day, and just one day after Aidele’s due date. It’s her wish that Aliza’s legacy may help others in a similar impossible situation – and it’s my wish that we can invite her back in future with a happier story, as the condition is not genetic. Thank you so much for bravely sharing your story, Aidele (Recorded April 2026).If you've been affected by issues in this episode, please find support at:Sands https://www.sands.org.ukBabySTEPPS (Gibraltar) https://www.facebook.com/BABYSTEPPSGIBGibsams: https://gibsams.giDisclaimer: views expressed in podcast episodes are those of guests, and do not reflect the views of GBC.

KEY TOPICS: 1 birth, aortic valve displacement/replacement, blood clot, advanced maternal age, premature, caesarean, hip dysplasiaMeet poker manager Colette Stewart, who had a high-stakes journey to motherhood! It’s an extraordinary listen as Colette describes a complication with her artificial heart valve, that led to her daughter’s emergency caesarean… alongside her own heart surgery in the same procedure.Colette moved to the Rock in 2000 with a managed heart condition. There were known risks to becoming pregnant, but her medication was adjusted and she conceived with her then-partner. She had a good textbook pregnancy with a due date the end of January 2013, however as she entered her third trimester, Colette felt crushing fatigue. An emergency check-up confirmed the frightening presence of a heart complication.What followed was a dramatic race to Cadiz for emergency care, as a team of specialists urgently consulted: how to save both mother and baby? With huge risks, uncertainty and a language barrier, Colette faced the real possibility that she might not survive to meet her baby. It’s an emotional listen as she describes undergoing a caesarean AND a heart valve replacement… within the same hour. More surgery followed to fit a pacemaker, and five days passed before Colette could meet her premature little girl.Thankfully both recovered well and returned home for Christmas. We discuss how Colette’s daughter was treated for hip dysplasia, but has since been in excellent health with no inherited heart issues... and is now actually taller than Colette! It’s heart-warming to hear about the invaluable support she had from friends and family, as Colette beat the odds to become a mother. She tells this incredible journey in such a down-to-earth way! Thank you Colette, for sharing your birth story (Recorded March 2026).  

KEY TOPICS: 5 pregnancies, missed miscarriages, second trimester loss, birth trauma, retained placenta, D&C, cervical lip, assisted delivery, autism, thyroiditis, pandemicAngelique Cavilla describes her parenting journey involving five pregnancies and her three sons… so please note this episode contains discussion of loss, including the second trimester.Angelique and her husband were expecting their first baby in 2013. It was a good pregnancy, although the induced delivery of their little boy was tricky with Angelique’s cervical lip. Over time, she noticed her son’s development differed from other babies, and he received a diagnosis of autism as a toddler.Angelique’s second pregnancy in 2016 went well, with a delivery similar to her first although more intense. Their second son was born quickly and Angelique recovered well. Despite nights of poor sleep and communication issues with her eldest, she expressed the feeling: “I’m not done yet.” However the journey to reach their third child saw two devastating losses – in the pandemic year of 2020.At almost 16 weeks the couple’s world fell apart at a gender scan, when instead, they discovered no heartbeat. It’s a harrowing description of traumatic delivery… while background TV’s announced lockdown. Angeliques explains the cruelty of a ‘missed miscarriage,’ – when the body gives no sign that a pregnancy has ended weeks before – and the hardest part: explaining to her young sons.Social distancing meant Angelique’s recovery was lonely, while working and home-schooling. It was a bleak time, made harder by the discovery of another missed miscarriage at 8 weeks. A rollercoaster of emotions followed – and another pregnancy. Thankfully Angelique reached full-term, before a difficult labour and forceps delivery of her longed-for son.We discuss the bond between her boys, family life, plus coping with health anxiety and physical repercussions after her births and losses. Angelique hope her story of a 'rainbow baby' shows that hope can exist after loss. I’m very grateful to Angelique for so honestly sharing her Gibraltar Birth Stories (Recorded March 2026).If you've been affected by topics in this episode, please find local support online: Baby STEPPs (Support Through Early Parenthood & Pregnancies) Gibraltaror with https://gibsams.gi for a free confidential listening service.More support is available at: https://www.tommys.org/ and https://www.sands.org.uk/