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S10 Ep. 3: Emily: Did My Body Betray Me? The Truth About Unwanted Arousal
In this not to be missed episode, I have the great joy of connecting with “Come As You Are” author, Emily Nagoski, who shares with us about the work she does combining sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies.
We tackle a hugely important topic – that of unwanted sexual arousal and the shame survivors often feel as a result of the physical responses they experienced during abuse.
We also distinguish the differences between arousal, pleasure, and desire – and it is so simple and yet mind blowing!
Emily wants you to know, "Center pleasure! When we put pleasure at the center of our definition of sexual well-being, all the other pieces fall into place."
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https://emilynagoski.substack.com
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CAYA, second edition:
https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316
Burnout:
https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/1984818325/
CAYA Podcast:
https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/come-as-you-are
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https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/
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