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BQ40: "Can You Find Yourself As You Break Yourself?" - with Darin Newbold

Season 1, Ep. 40

Kevin Hohe sits down with leadership coach and entrepreneur Darin Newbold for a raw, redemptive conversation about failure, faith, and the long road to self-awareness. From losing jobs and facing divorce to nearly moving back in with his parents, Darin’s journey isn’t just a story of survival—it’s a testimony to humility, grace, and starting over with purpose.


Kevin and Darin explore what it means to lead with self-awareness, how ego and pride can hold us back, and why faith and failure are often the same teachers in disguise. Together they unpack the power of tools like the Enneagram and Purpose Factor, and how knowing yourself deeply can make you a better leader, partner, and parent.


In this episode

• Why leadership starts with self-awareness, not authority

• How failure can be the foundation for purpose

• The connection between humility, healing, and faith

• Building resilience through personal and spiritual honesty

• What it means to lead others when you’re still learning yourself

• The quiet strength in surrendering control and trusting God’s timing


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