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In this episode, Busayo and I discuss boundaries, relationships, self-respect, and personal growth. We talk about how setting boundaries affects both friendships and romantic relationships, and why communication and self-awareness matter.

This episode is a real conversation about motherhood, not just the “joy,” but everything. We talk about the emotional highs and lows, the challenges, the support (or lack of it), and how it all impacts your life, your career, and your sense of self.I’m joined by Toluwase, who shares her personal experience navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood . We get into everything. If you’ve ever wondered what motherhood really looks like, this one is for you.

Yes! We now have a community, and the first 20 people to join will get something special. Let’s get the conversation going, here’s the link to join: https://chat.whatsapp.com/K0FU2tNWdTu4Am9lYv50CUOn this week’s episode, I sat down with CheckedEdgar, and let’s just say… I was shocked to learn that he went on 72 dates in 52 weeks. And somehow, he’s still single.We talked about everything, the good dates, the chaotic ones, and even the time a woman screamed that he stole her phone on their first date. We also got into what it really means to be single and searching in Lagos.CheckedEdgar was honest about what men think about love, commitment, and vulnerability. If you’ve ever dated in Lagos, argued about “what are we?”, or wondered whether it’s you or the city… this one is for you.Enjoy the episode!

In this episode, Selina and I talk about love, work-life balance, and the cultural differences between Ghana and Nigeria. We share our Valentine’s Day experiences, discuss the challenges of integrating into new environments, and reflect on gender roles and the position of women in African society. We also touch on entrepreneurship, travel plans, and the importance of cultural understanding between our countries. It was a fun, honest, and free-flowing conversation.00:00 Valentine's Day Reflections09:02 Work-Life Balance and New Ventures15:46 Cultural Perspectives on Nigerians and Ghanaians22:11 Integration Challenges and Experiences23:14 Navigating Cultural Integration25:50 Communication Styles and Identity30:36 Cultural Shock and Observations33:01 Entrepreneurial Journey and Challenges35:49 Travel Plans and Excitement38:03 Dating Dynamics in Ghana vs Nigeria40:27 Gender Roles and Women's Rights44:25 Final Thoughts and Reflections48:27 for watching.mp4

In this episode, Comfort Omovre, a relationship coach, and I unpack the question, “Is love ever enough?” We talk about heartbreak, healing, and the role friendship plays in romantic relationships. We also share our experiences with toxic dynamics, self-discovery after heartbreak, and learning to let go of the desire for validation. We share it all from the heart.00:00 The Crisis of Faith in Love02:52 Understanding Love and Healing05:29 The Balancing Act of Life and Work08:46 The Nature of Love: Choices and Actions11:44 Friendship as the Foundation of Love22:41 Reviving Romance in Long-Term Relationships23:45 Understanding Anger in Relationships26:02 The Complexity of Love and Conflict27:54 Navigating Breakups and Emotional Turmoil30:02 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Branding44:53 Resilience Through Pain and Growth47:20 Struggles with Mental Health and Self-Perception50:12 The Power of Letting Go of Others' Opinions51:35 Navigating Heartbreak and Personal Growth52:24 Understanding the Roots of Relationship Failures57:30 Cultural Influences on Self-Worth and Relationships01:03:07 The Journey of Reinvention and Letting Go01:09:33 Navigating Difficult Relationships01:12:48 Understanding Love and Attachment01:13:44 The Triangle of Love01:18:07 Unlearning and Self-Discovery01:23:00 Embracing Vulnerability and Growth

I had a really chill conversation with Deborah about how she moved from food science into tech and is now working as an AI software developer. We talked about learning tech on your own, dealing with imposter syndrome, and why having the right community matters so much. She also shared some honest truths about tech, especially for women, and why it is never too late to start. If you have ever thought about getting into tech, you will definitely enjoy this episode.01:28 Deborah's Journey in Tech03:24 Understanding AI and Software Development05:32 Navigating Career Transitions07:43 The Importance of Networking10:09 Work-Life Balance and Personal Reflections23:30 The Journey to 1K Subscribers23:32 Introversion and Social Dynamics25:53 Transitioning from Food Science to Engineering27:16 The Role of Mathematics in Tech29:21 Curiosity and Self-Learning in Tech43:20 Finding Free Resources for Learning Tech45:11 Women Supporting Women in Tech47:47 The Changing Landscape for Women in Tech50:10 Overcoming Misconceptions About Tech

In this episode, Aduragbemi Oladunjoye and I talk about content creation and what it really means to be visible in the digital space. We talk about the pressure that comes with being called a “content creator,” personal branding, and the balance between planning and spontaneity when showing up online.We also talked about networking, self-promotion, and why advocating for yourself matters in competitive spaces.This episode is about visibility, growth, and learning how to show up fully, even when it feels uncomfortable.00:00 The Journey to Content Creation02:58 Understanding Content Creation and Digital Presence06:03 The Importance of Personal Branding08:58 Navigating Content Strategy: Planning vs. Spontaneity11:54 The Numbers Game in Content Creation14:58 The Pressure of Going Viral17:55 Controversial Topics and Engagement19:56 Culinary Preferences and Nostalgia21:03 Reflections on Growth and Hard Work22:01 2016: A Pivotal Year in Education24:00 Transitioning from Education to Digital Marketing26:56 Understanding Social Media Management30:05 The Importance of Visibility in Career31:58 The Role of Education in Professional Development34:01 Navigating Digital Marketing Strategies35:58 The Balance of Online Presence and Professionalism39:04 Networking and Self-Promotion43:39 The Challenges of Networking44:30 Effective Networking Strategies46:36 Building Connections at Events48:43 The Importance of Horizontal Networking51:01 Overcoming Timidity in Networking52:05 Sharing Personal Journeys: Alopecia Awareness01:05:08 Finding Courage to Share Your Story01:09:09 Continuous Learning in Content Creation

In this episode, I sit down with Ehiz Oriaifo to have an honest conversation about the journey from unemployment to entrepreneurship in Nigeria. We discuss the realities of building a creative business, using social media for marketing, navigating client relationships, and why diversifying income is key. Ehiz shares his personal journey, the fears of leaving stability, lessons learned along the way, and what keeps him going. This conversation is for anyone trying to build something meaningful despite uncertainty.00:00 Introduction and Personal Journey02:31 The Role of Social Media in Business04:02 Marketing Strategies for Reaching the Right Audience08:03 The Challenges of Being a Photographer15:00 Transitioning from 9-to-5 to Full-Time Entrepreneurship20:58 Building a Portfolio and Collaborations21:56 Technical Difficulties and Transitioning Focus21:57 The Fear of Leaving Corporate Stability23:23 Diversifying Income as a Creative28:02 Navigating Family Conversations About Career Changes30:36 Understanding Strengths in Entrepreneurship34:32 The Joy of Capturing Moments in Photography38:55 Balancing Worship and Photography in Church Settings40:27 Introduction to Challenges in Nigerian Photography43:48 Client Expectations and Wedding Day Woes45:37 The Emotional Toll of Entrepreneurship51:26 Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs