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Episode 381 - Your Mindful Choice Is Your Ego Working For or Against You with Christie Garcia

Ep. 381

Our ego is made of our mindset, beliefs, and unconscious habits. That means 99% of our decisions are driven by our ego, which is not necessarily bad if we think our ego is both our weaknesses and strengths. In a way, we owe our success to our ego; it pushed us through challenging times and helped us reach the top.


Yet CEOs, team leaders, and managers need other people to meet them at the top, and that’s where the ego gets in the way.


In this episode, Christie Garcia, President of Mindful Choice Coaching, teaches us how to become better leaders by understanding the ego's influence in our decision-making process. In over 12 years in business, Mindful Choice Coaching helped many individuals reach their leadership potential, from companies like Airbnb, Twitter, Oakley Inc, and DemandForce, to name a few.


Throughout our conversation, Christie talks about the 30ft fall that changed her life and the question she had to answer three times to realize "she wasn't okay". We learn about the three types of ego and how they operate, how to prevent our ego from running our company, how to develop a healthy, balanced, and optimal ego, and so much more.


Tune in to Episode 381 of Becoming Your Best and learn how mindful choices can produce real change in your leadership abilities.


Some Questions I Ask: 

  • Please tell us about your background and how you got into what you're doing today (2:50) 
  • How do we develop a healthy, balanced, optimal ego? (14:10)


In This Episode, You Will Learn: 

  • Christie talks about the 30ft fall that changed her life (6:00) 
  • Are you really "doing okay"? (8:20) 
  • The three types of ego (12:20) 
  • How ego sabotages our happiness (17:10) 
  • The communication component of ego management (21:10)


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