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Why Modern Relationships Are Breaking (And How to Fix Them) | Kiana & Andrew

Season 2, Ep. 76

Why is it so hard to find and keep love today? We're trying to recreate marriages based on old rules in a completely new world — and it's not working.


Kiana and Andrew have been married for 13 years and work together as a therapist and coach duo at Soul Journey Project. In this conversation, we unpack why people struggle to commit, how social media has warped our expectations of relationships, what men and women actually need from each other, and why avoiding hard conversations slowly destroys the connection. We also talk about the vulnerability paradox — why romantic relationships consume us more than anything else — and why "choosing your hard" now might save you from a lifetime of pain later.

Whether you're single, dating, or married, this episode will change how you think about love, communication, and what it really takes to make a relationship last.


Find Kiana & Andrew at souljourneyproject.com and on Instagram & Facebook @SoulJourneyProject.

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