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How To Show Up For Others & Yourself During Difficult Times w/ Pepe Bandit & Folk Punk Dad #6

Season 1, Ep. 6

Pepe is trying to show up for people in his life that are currently facing challenging times. Him and Folk Punk Dad discuss what this means and how you can actually do it. Then they talk about how showing up for yourself is just as important. Thoughts on swamps, compassion, resentment & snitching are also shared.


HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Showing up for friends/family when it's difficult
  • Facing uncomfortable feelings
  • Self-care & self-love
  • Finding solace in the swamplands
  • Having compassion for someone who has caused harm
  • Managing resentment
  • Pepe's lack of resentment for the folks who snitched & sent him to prison


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Check out Pepe's video by the swamp where he talked about getting ready to go to prison:

  • facebook.com/diybanditsfurever/posts/an-update-about-my-situationkeep-an-eye-out-for-johnny-hobo-and-wdu-vinyls-a-pat/907986072892779/


Chill out to Pepe's rocksteady playlist on Spotify:

  • open.spotify.com/playlist/1og9SP4Leh9a8mbcEqDI0c?si=2NO7OD5xS--UX9vrDujxMA&nd=1


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  • Podcast@BackOnTheGrindRecords.com


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Get coffee for the folkpunk in you:

  • BanditCoffRoasters.com



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