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the dark side of cosmetic surgery: real stories of regret [preview]

Have you ever thought that a cosmetic procedure might transform your life, only to worry it could lead to crushing debt and lasting regret? In this hard-hitting episode, we dive deep into the world of cosmetic surgery regrets, exposing the hidden truths and societal pressures that drive people to alter their appearance. Join me as I unpack a revealing 2023 study on decision regret in plastic surgery. We'll uncover why so many people feel disillusioned after their procedures, exploring key factors like unmet expectations, the lack of thorough preoperative education, and the impact of postoperative complications. Discover how the promise of 'Kylie Jenner’s lips' or 'Kim Kardashian’s nose' often leads to unforeseen outcomes and the predatory practices of some medispas that prioritize profit over patient well-being.

 

After hours of sifting through Reddit, I've gathered the most raw and authentic voices sharing their experiences with fillers, CoolSculpting, laser treatments, microblading, rhinoplasty, and breast augmentation. Hear firsthand accounts of botched results, financial burdens, and the emotional and psychological toll of cosmetic enhancements gone wrong. These real-world insights provide a stark look at the risks involved and the pervasive dissatisfaction felt by many. Finally, I'll share my personal journey with cosmetic procedures, reflecting on the psychological impacts and the realization that true happiness doesn’t come from external changes. We’ll also delve into the broader societal and psychological implications, examining how social media and advertising shape our beauty standards and contribute to mental health issues like body dysmorphia and anxiety.


TIME STAMPS:

00:00 – 30:19.57: Part 1 (Introduction to decision regret in elective healthcare, overview of a 2023 study, key findings on preoperative education and shared decision-making, and discussion of societal pressures and predatory practices in the cosmetic industry.)

 30:19.57 – end: Part 2 (Examination of real-world experiences from Reddit on cosmetic procedure regrets, detailed accounts of issues with fillers, CoolSculpting, laser treatments, microblading, rhinoplasty, breast augmentation, and personal reflections on the psychological impacts and societal implications.)


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