Autistic Culture Presents...

In this meeting of The Late Diagnosis Club, Dr Angela Kingdon welcomes Jason Killian, an engineer, hiking instructor, and long time member of the club, who shares his journey to understanding himself as Autistic in his 40s.

Growing up in a neurodivergent household, Jason was unknowingly accommodated in early childhood. Despite strong academic performance, Jason struggled with social integration, bullying, and later workplace dynamics, experiences that only made sense years later through the lens of Autism.

This is a conversation about understanding your needs, building a life that fits, and what changes when you finally have the right framework.

🪑 Attendees

Chair: Dr Angela Kingdon — Author, community-builder, and Autistic advocate

Guest: Jason Killian — Engineer, hiking instructor, and Autistic advocate

You: The Listener!

🗒️ Meeting Agenda

• Opening remarks from the Chair
• Member introduction: Early environment and hidden accommodations
• Discussion: School overwhelm and social expectations
• IEPs, missed diagnoses, and academic masking
• Workplace challenges and burnout
• Late identification and diagnosis journey
• Self-accommodation and relationships
• Hiking, regulation, and sensory experience
• Key learnings
• Club announcements

🧾 Minutes from the Meeting

1️⃣ Opening Remarks

Angela introduces Jason Killian, a longtime LDC member whose story explores what it means to grow up supported, but not understood, and to find clarity later in life.

2️⃣ Member Introduction: Jason’s Story

Jason grew up in a neurodivergent family where his needs were naturally accommodated — quiet spaces, independence, and room to explore interests.

But once he entered school, sensory overwhelm, social expectations, and group environments became challenging. Without a framework for Autism, these struggles were interpreted as social difficulties rather than unmet needs.

Although he performed well academically, Jason experienced bullying, isolation, and later workplace challenges, particularly around communication, expectations, and social norms.

It wasn’t until adulthood — after years of reflection, therapy, and recognising patterns — that Jason identified as Autistic and sought a formal diagnosis.

3️⃣ Discussion Highlights

• Neurodivergent household: Early needs met without formal recognition
• School shock: Sensory overwhelm and social confusion in group settings
• IEP limitations: Focus on social skills, not sensory or learning needs
• Bullying experience: Social differences targeted in adolescence and work
• College turning point: Finding acceptance in the queer community
• Pandemic reflection: Patterns recognised through shared experiences online
• Relationship clarity: Shared neurodivergence improves understanding
• Workplace shift: Smaller company enabling better fit and autonomy
• Hiking regulation: Nature as a consistent nervous system support
• Sensory joy: Smell, sound, and visual richness in outdoor environments

4️⃣ Key Learnings

• Support without understanding can still leave gaps.
• Academic success does not mean needs are being met.
• Late identification often comes through pattern recognition over time.
• Self-accommodation is a critical skill for wellbeing.
• Relationships can improve with shared understanding and language.
• Environment plays a major role in regulation and success.
• Special interests can become both careers and lifelines.

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🎙️ Executive Producers: Amy Burns, Anamaria B Call, Andrew Banner, Anna Goodson, Ashley Apelzin, Audrea Volker, Ben Coulson, Brian Churcek, Cappy Hamper, Carley Biblin, Charlene Deva, Chloe Cross, Clay Duhigg, Clayton Oliver, Danny Dunn, Daria Brown, David Garrido, Emily Burgess, Eric Crane, Erik Stenerud, Fiona Baker, Grace Norman, Helen Shaddock, Jaimie Collins, Jason Killian, Jen Unruh, Jennifer Carpenter, Julia Tretter, Kathie Watson-Gray, Kenneth Knowles, Kira Cotter, Kristine Lang, Kyle Raney, Llew P Williams, Laura Alvarado, Laura De Vito, Laura Provonsha, Lily George, Nelly Darmi, Nigel Rogers, Rachel Miller, Tim Scott, Tyler Kunz, Victoria Steed, Yanina Wood.

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