Autistic As Fuck: life, love & pop culture through a black autistic lens

Having to work to live sucks, least of all when how your brain is built doesn't support consistent productivity. In this episode I discuss how difficult I find entrepreneurship and employment, and how much I resent having to betray myself at work just to maintain basic human rights (food, shelter). I get into:Entrepreneurship and how it triggers our fear of being perceivedCapitalism and the illusion of choiceWorkplaces wanting your time and not your productivityThe unfairness and impossibility of monetizing a passionFundamental incongruities of autism and conventional officesReferences:Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka MurataPlease leave a review on Apple podcasts so that other late-diagnosers can find the showJoin my Free Patron for exclusive content and virtual hangouts: https://patreon.com/autisticasfuckBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/autisticasfpodcastChit chat on Discord: https://discord.gg/s4R8u2RaHang out on IG: @autisticasfpodcastHang out on Tik Tok: @autisticasfpodcastFind a therapist or counsellor: https://ndtherapists.com and https://neurodivergentpractitioners.org/ 

This episode is a detailed review of the themes in Helen Hoang's "The Kiss Quotient". It's an ICONIC book which inspired a lot of thought. I discuss autistic self-esteem, sexual exploration and platonic intimacy. More specifically:00:00 Overview of the book 'The Kiss Quotient' with spoilers00:15 Exploring Sexual Content in Literature vs. Pornography04:22 Discussing the Emotional Journey of Reading 'The Kiss Quotient'08:12 Stella's Story: Autistic Representation and Love15:24 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Autistic Experiences23:29 Navigating Social Interactions and Misunderstandings25:04 Sensory Overload and Emotional Challenges during sex26:41 Exploring Intimacy and Consent as an autistic woman30:27 The Journey of self-understanding and Acceptance45:36 Reflections on Work, Life, and Autistic RepresentationPlease leave a review on Apple podcasts so that other late-diagnosers can find the showJoin my Free Patron for exclusive content and virtual hangouts: https://patreon.com/autisticasfuckBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/autisticasfpodcastSay hi: autisticasfpodcast@gmail.comHang out on IG and Tik Tok: @autisticasfpodcastFind a therapist or counsellor: https://ndtherapists.com and https://neurodivergentpractitioners.org

This episode is my case against casual sex! Sex is glorious and awesome and I hope we all have more of it. However we can't ignore the challenges inherent to autism that make us very bad candidates for casual sex. In this episode I unpack autistic sensitivities and accommodations that would make “casual” sex, anything but that. I discuss:The double burden of having to unmask and contend with socialisation that has made women fawn and struggle to self advocateMeltdowns, breakdowns and going nonverbal during stressful intimacyWhat does safe vs. unsafe sex look like for autistic womenThe importance of building self trustDouble speak, manipulation vs. DirectnessAutistics and a trusting nature/naivityPlease leave a rating on Spotify and review on Apple podcasts so that other late-diagnosers can find the showReferencesThe Kiss Quotient by Helen HoangPick Up Artists Examined: https://youtu.be/Tpuw_aPP-n4?si=zPnLDXnh9GDO-uHQ Join my Free Patron for exclusive content and virtual hangouts: https://patreon.com/autisticasfuckBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/autisticasfpodcastSay hi: autisticasfpodcast@gmail.comHang out on IG and Tik Tok: @autisticasfpodcastFind a therapist or counsellor: https://ndtherapists.com and https://neurodivergentpractitioners.org

TRIGGER WARNING: S*icideI've been having a hard time making meaning out of life - what with societal collapse, genocides hustle culture - and wanted to share some conclusions I made about why it is better to stay alive than to opt out. I hope this episode makes you feel seen and a little less alone.Themes discussed:Arguments in favour of staying aliveFinding joy while the world is burningFinding ones place in the worldAutism and justice sensitivity Magic and nature Please leave a review on Apple podcasts so that other late-diagnosers can find the showJoin my Free Patron for exclusive content and virtual hangouts: https://patreon.com/autisticasfuckBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/autisticasfpodcastSay hi: autisticasfpodcast@gmail.comHang out on IG and Tik Tok: @autisticasfpodcastFind a therapist or counsellor: https://ndtherapists.com and https://neurodivergentpractitioners.org

I went to a queer brunch and had the most fascinating experience. This episode discusses my reflections on:Social Anxiety, Solipsism and Self-AwarenessThe fundamental loneliness of being an adultThe Harsh Realities of AdulthoodThe Complexities of Dating and Social ExpectationsGroup Vulnerability and Shared ExperiencesPlease leave a review on Apple podcasts so that other late-diagnosers can find the showJoin my Free Patron for exclusive content and virtual hangouts: https://patreon.com/autisticasfuckBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/autisticasfpodcastSay hi: autisticasfpodcast@gmail.comHang out on IG and Tik Tok: @autisticasfpodcastFind a therapist or counsellor: https://ndtherapists.com and https://neurodivergentpractitioners.org

Amanda Seales is being unfairly dog-pilled on. When people are cut down because they're honest and direct, what does this say about society at large? If it's unsafe for a successful, effective, beautiful allistic woman to be unflinching in her anti-establishment critiques, what hope is there for the average black autistic woman? This episode dissects bullying dynamics, the price of honesty, Hollywood, blackness and the isolation that comes from being a truth-teller.00:35 The Unfair Treatment of Amanda Seales and Its Implications on black autistic women03:00 The Intersection of Autism, Likability, and Professional Success05:44 Black Hollywood, oppression, bullies thrive in silence10:38 Hollywood archetypes and bullyingPlease leave a review on Apple podcasts so that other late-diagnosers can find the showJoin my Free Patron for exclusive content and virtual hangouts: https://patreon.com/autisticasfuckBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/autisticasfpodcastHang out on IG: @autisticasfpodcastHang out on Tik Tok: @autisticasfpodcast