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125 Autistic Play Saves Lives with Max Alexander

Max Alexander is an artist and play worker who has mapped some common shapes of autistic play. He's passionate about neuro-affirming play for all ages.

Play is both a healing tool, and can help prevent some of the effects of trauma (we touch on this lightly, a concept I learned from Linda Thai)

One possible way to apply the play styles is noticing which ones speak to you, and which ones you're already engaging in, then leaning into those.

The ebook is free, and it's a quick and excellent read!


Apologies for the audio quality. Max was using a headset and didn't have an actual microphone, so I did the best I could to clean it up


Do Less program for 2026 (starts Jan 15, reach out by Jan 7)


Connect with Max:
  1. Max's book, The Joys and Shapes of Autistic Play
  2. Max's Substack, Play Radical


AuDHD Flourishing resources:
  1. Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
  2. Mattia's Newsletter
  3. Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)


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