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60 When Quitting Works

Quitting can feel amazing, especially when it's a clear self-protection move. And when we haven't waited until it becomes so terrible we have to get out.

But the decision-making process can feel slow!


This episode covers three ways I've decided to quit things:

  1. Big emotions / the thing got really bad
  2. Math-y pros and cons approach (slow but effective)
  3. Getting somatic info from my body


#3 is great... but at the same time, I've done years of building safety around receiving and integrating information from my body! It's not just about the technique itself.


Resources:

  1. Mentioned the DEAR MAN skill from DBT
  2. Like Your Brain community space
  3. Transcript Doc
  4. Email Newsletter
  5. Love Your Brain course

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